I ran into one of my son's teachers from GCSE at a social a few weeks ago. She has since retired and wanted to know how he'd done in his GCSE in her subject. I told her what he'd got, and then suffixed it by saying that he was a lazy little toerag which is why he had not achieved what we all knew he was capable of achieving. She looked slightly embarrassed, and said "Well, you can say that!" Clearly she thought it too, but couldn't bring herself to come out and agree with me despite being retired now.
When did it stop becoming acceptable to tell parents that you think their child is easily capable of more and is, in fact, just plain bone idle? I really think a lot of parents and children might benefit from knowing that more work is expected from their children than is being provided. Assuming that they are just not able to do it is possibly letting them down.
But then I an remember being on the other side of the problem as a teacher, and having parents totally stick their fingers in their ears about it and blame "spiritedness", "clash of personalities" "lack of ability" and a raft of other things for what is actually their child's indolence. My husband's favourite school report from the 70s states for one subject "The idle has feet of clay".
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Why do teachers baulk at saying DC are lazy?
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duchesse · 02/03/2010 19:20
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