Hopefully my acronym is right, it means 'daughter' yes? I've been scouring the forums for hours trying to find a similar situation to what I'm in. This is my first post in all my seventeen years of being a parent...
I came home early from work the other day. I was supposed to working til 11pm, so my 17 yr old only daughter (and child) had her friend over. I phoned her earlier that evening for a little girly night, they just said that they were drinking rose wine spritzers and chatting while their nails dried. I like hearing about all that, keeps me young and all.
However, wasn't quite prepared for what they were talking about. I came in through the back door as there was nowhere to park, she didn't hear me coming. I was already to shout down the hallway 'Hi girls!' and if they wanted a takeaway but just before I spoke my daughter's friend shouted 'oh! you SLUT!' and bursted into a fit of giggles. I heard my daughter join in. I lingered in the hallway and waited to hear what was going on.
I found out so many things within 2 minutes that has just changed my view of my dd.
1- She is on the pill, I didn't think she'd even know where to get it and she'd come to me when she was ready to have sex.
2- She is extremely sexually active and gets to know young men purely for the prospect of sex 'without all that relationship bollocks'
3- She is sleeping with HER MANAGER at work.
4- She is very very 'experienced'.
I'm clueless on what to do. I never spoke to her about sex at all apart from telling her when she got her period at 10 that she could now have children, so not to have sex. I thought she was above this! How did she even know how to get it?
I would be so much more happier if she had the mindset one of those dopey girls I meet at work everyday (I work on an abortion/gyno ward) who think that just because her boyfriend's sleep with them that they love them! She is instead being morally corrupt and sleeping around just for the kick she gets out of it...I feel ill. I would have never been like that at her age.
She is studious, beautiful and despite her vile sexual behaviour extremely kind hearted- I can see why these young men like her. I know her boss, he's a respectable young guy of 22 and because she's of age I can't go to the police, but I don't know why she's so stupid to get involved with someone in that position! She could lose her job over it!
I feel ill. She doesn't know I heard them. She's walking about with no make up on and her pyjamas as I type this, I can see her baby face and she looks so young and innocent. I am at my wits end.
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TammyAnne72 · 02/03/2010 16:49
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