First the background
In 2008 Ds1 started stealing from us, only little things at first then they got bigger culminating in taking my bank card on our holidays and withdrawing £300. We contacted the police and a very nice community officer came round and spoke to him and he promised to stop and get a part time job. (he is 16)
Things got better for a while but over the last few weeks he has been horrible to live with and things were going missign again, a tenner from his siters purse, pound coins from mine, then last Thursday a bottle of vodka that was dd's went missing and so did he, he came in very drunk and denying that he had taken it. She waited until he had gone to bed, went in his room and got his phone, thinking if he had taken it there would be texts about it. She was right but there were also texts on about him getting weed from a dealer and passing it on to people at college. We challenged him about it, and he was upset but evasive - he doesn't knwo who he gets it from, he doesn't pay for it (!!). We contacted the same officer, asked him to visit us and have got this from him
"Given XXXXX has been in possession of cannabis and is a juvenile the only way he can be dealt with is by way of arrest. This would mean him coming into the station to be dealt with with yourself (i wouldn't propose the humiliation of him being placed in the rear of a liveried van.) You may wish to speak with your wife to see if this is the method you wish for him. I feel just "telling him off" would have the same effect as the previous talking to i gave him i.e. nothing ! He would probably receive a caution for this possession but this appears to be a small part of a very big jigsaw. If somebody is selling cannabis to schoolchildren then this person needs to be taken out too something which can only be done with XXXX's help."
I feel sick.
what would you do?
And answers to questions you may ask - he doesn't have a job, he wouldn't get one as it would "eat into his free time", he gets no money at all from us other than busfare to college - if he won't get a job, I will not fund a social life. We have confiscated his phone, he doesn't have a lap top/x box/ psp/ playsytation/tv.
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needtodecide · 26/01/2010 11:39
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