I'm a full time single dad with 11 year old son. We have a really good relationship and people have always commented on what a good job I'm doing etc and what a charmingly well behaved guy he is etc. HMMMmmm
But I do have some problems and I badly need advice.
The problem right now is him helping himself to money from my wallet.
I really can't afford this as I am on benefits and at complete financial rock bottom like you wouldn't believe !
I know all kids will nick things a bit at some time, but this is out of hand.
I have caught him before (£10 gone) and made a diplomatic & vague approach which was successful because it enabled him to easily admit to it after first denying it.
But in order for him to be able to do this he made it into a bit of a joke by saying that he had 'only borrowed' the money and would pay it back.
I have used the same kind of diplomacy with him helping himself to other domestic items that he shouldn't i.e. polishing off all the cake/biscuits/whatever or right now he can't stop himself from endlessly helping himself to the crystalised fruit I am making and because it takes a couple of weeks to make and there will be absolutely nothing of it left when it is finished because he has nicked it all.
You all know that sort of thing, kids do it all the time. Except my son is more persistent than most ! Incorrigable really.
However, back to money. I did come across all strong about stealing the money, while I am obviously more lenient about nicking other things.
So imagine my horror when I found he had taken £19 this morning and £10 a few days ago. This despite me darkly hinting that I was aware money had been evaporating from my wallet !
I now have to get serious about this. What is the best way of dealing with it so it doesn't ever happen again ?
I've already given all the right speeches about stealing and he knows just how wrong it is. He also knows I'm broke etc.
So what next ?
Other than chopping both his hands off as a punishment.
By the way, although I have a reputation as a strong and dominant character who doesn't take crap from anyone, even kids I have never really needed to be big on punishment. Possibly because I have a good empathy with kids (being just a big kid myself, I suppose).
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Eleven Year Old Son Stealing my Money
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rocketone · 09/01/2010 15:32
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