Help ..

[Valiant1]

This is gona be long and we just need advice, my dsd is 18 and has a colourfull track record of lying, stealling and lying lots more... I can not stand people lying to me and this last week we found out she had been lyoing to us about where she had been and who she was with (sounds harsh at 18 but she ended up miles from home with a lad she just met and no way of getting home 6 mths ago) she is not very street wise and just randomly goes off with who ever asks her to. Any way we had a lot of truble about three months ago where she had lied to some one who came and told me she was going to ring s/s on me as i beat my kids up and i was a bad mother- lies she had been told by dsd, i am a ta and work with s/s helping with respite care. so we agreed thet ashe was to be kept in for a week and that she was gona stick to the rules of been honest and not lying to us.......so this week she has liyed at every turn she has had a chance too and we are at the end of our wits.. she was going to college we found out she was at a 16yr olds house in his room ...she has love bites but they not from him ....just lies all the time she is 18 and should be able to come to us and say s/m ,dad ive met a lad .....but no she has borke every rule set and then asks us how she can tell this lad she isnt coming out ..without it been our fault.....she doesnt think she has done wrong ...i said if she liyed again she was out but now it comes to it she has no money ..wont get benifits and no where to go and wants her dad to go with her.. we want to give her freedom but we can not trust her ..any help??? what do we do..A) let her get on with it, she is 18 let her make her own mistakes B)make more rule for her to brake or C) kick her out knowing she would be homless?...

[mrsruffallo]

This is quite hard to read but I think she needs some time with her dad and to be given some direction in her life.
Has she always been like this?

[Valiant1]

This is the 4th time in 2 years she meets a lad and goes wild. she very rearly goes out exept if it is with a lad and has no other soacial life. it is not that she has a boyfriend it is what she does when she gets one the lies the danger she puts herself in etc we just hoped someone would be able to direct us really as we are at the end of our wits. we do not want to be strong disaplinearians but will not be lied to.We have 3 younger children and we teach them not to lie and brake rules if they do there is concquencec but if she can get away with it ....

[mamas12]

Sounds like she could do with some sort of self esteem confidence building sessions.
Why not ring womens aid and find out if there are some courses suitable for teenagers where she could learn to think for herself when it comes to boys.

[Valiant1]

We have asked her to join a social group or counciling she doesnt seem to think there is a problem and its her life so who am i to take that away from her. We have decided to just let her get on with it if she is happy then she should feel better and have more self esteem, we just worry and do not want anything to happen to her...

[Tortington]

my house my rules.

if you dont like it - your out on yer arse.

shes 18 - these are the consequences.

she wont be homeless, she will gt benefits unless she has an income or savings -

look on your local councils housing dept website regarding homelessness.