I need advice. My dd11 has reduced me to tears twice this week and its usually in the mornings before she goes to school. Shes doing ok at school, has some nice friends, on top of homework and has support from us in everything she does. She goes to Guides, loves gymnastics but is not spoilt as we dont have to money to spoil her and she understands this.

But the way she speaks to me is disgusting half the time and she slams doors in my face.
She has always been "sensitive" shall we say but the last few months its almost as if she wants to "create" a situation and has caused big rows between me and dh sometimes. She is a beautiful, creative, loving child but sometimes she makes me feel as if im the worse person in the world. .

So far shes lost her computer time (loves MSN) and when she comes home this evening i will inform her she has lost her pocket money. But i need to say something to her without getting angry to make her realise how upset shes making me. Im crying as i write this because i love her so much but feel im losing her already.