just posted this on the aibu board ..should have come here...
Help ..
I cannot cope with my thirteen year old... Today started badly - we got halfway to my daughters school (after being late in the first place because he was so slow this morning ) and he announced that he couldnt do football after school as he had forgotten his shinpads and socks..I said we would go home and get them as its the first week of football he needed to go.. He would have to get a late mark and explain why he was late ..
So eventually I get him to school..
He then leaves his key behind - we had gone through all the arrangements for after school several times and he assured me he knew exactly what he was doing and had his key on case football was not on and he had to get hmself home - he knew we were going to the to my daughters swim lesson .
After school I get that call from him - mum where are you ?
Eventually at 5.20 he calls and says where are you ? I dont have my key and Ive just got off the bus ...
I told him he would have to walk ,.
After a bit I was unwilling to let him wait too long, so I made ds leave her drink and crisps and I left my coffee to drive home to find him...
He comes in - all ok until teatime, I called him several times - having told him that dinner would be in fifteen minutes when we got home he chose to ignore me..so I left his dinner on the side .
Eventually he comes down and throws a strop because its cold - refusing to eat it.. I told him to not be so bloody rude and that he had been called for dinner and that he would have to eat it cold if he couldnt be bothered to come down when he was called. I told him to sit down and eat it or I would throw it out ..
His response - "fine - I dont care "
so I gave it to the dog..
then he goes ballistic,throws his shoes and gets up and gets aggressive - ds is sitting eating dinner, I tell him he needs to go upstairs and tidy his room and sort the washing as he has been told to do.
he refuses and I warn him that if he doesnt I will take his laptop etc.. He starts laughing at me - going on about his rights ..
SO i go up and remove ipod, laptop, xbox all of it.. he comes tearing in accusing me of all sorts of breaches of his civil liberties and laughing at me ..
then he say hes going out. I say no you arent you will do your room as you have been told. so he goes downstairs, laughing at me as he does so.
then he goes to the backdoor and tries to go out - I say No ... his sister jumps in front of him and he ignroes us both and opens the door hurting her ..
I warn my daugheter to stay out of his way.
He then grabs the keys and tries to get into the garage - I stop him telling him he cant take anything .
Then he leaves - hes telling his sister that he hopes we die and that he is going to kill her cat ..
hes standing on the drive going oh just go and die...
Now tell me what the hell am I supposed to do ...?
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Duritzfan · 16/09/2009 20:30
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