I am feeling quite angry and sad that my 18 year old son is turning out to be a loser.God, that sounds awful, but I just can't believe how he is choosing to live his life, and although I know it is his life it affects me as he has no income and lives with us.
He left school last Nov.He has completed high school (i'm in australia)but did poorly in his exams.Since then he has had a couple of jobs, but when he is sick of it,he just chucks it in.He has moved out of home and back again three times.He has bought and sold 4 really bad cars in that time! He can't afford rent etc, so begs for help , promises to pay us back, then doesn't. I've done this twice, but now lives at home again as I refuse to do it again. He says he wants a job, but today a guy who was giving him some casual work just phoned because he didn't turn up. Argh!
I have had to nag him to deal with paying fines,getting a tax number,applying for unemployment benefit etc, he says he will do it but it doesn't happen.When he's at home I have to constantly nag him to do anything and I am really hating having him here.
The last house he lived in was a dope dealing house.I know when he visits these people he gets stoned and I am guessing that is why he didn't turn up to work today.
I can't stand that he is wasting his life but I don't feel I can kick him out to live with dope dealers and maybe end up dealing himself. He has already got a conviction for having a smoking implement in his car and is going to court for a traffic infringrement.Why can't he see this is not how to live? My DH and I have always had a good work ethic, we are both professionals with uni degrees.
I don't feel it is a form of rebellion, but rather just a complete lack of motivation and lack of organisation.
Please, if anyone has advice, I'd love to hear it.
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Angifi · 03/09/2009 05:08
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