Back in March I found out that my DD 12yrs had been shoplifting large amounts of earings and make up during the 8 or so times that I'd actually let her go with friends up town ( see my earlier thread I just found my 12yr old DD's stash of stolen earings)
We had a serious family talk with her my mum and Dad, sister and Dad she was grounded for 2 months and told she would not be aloud up town with friends for the far distant future. This was against my better judgement as I was all for taking her to the police station but my mum and husband begged me to let her have a second chance.
I'd started letting her go out after school with friends etc but had been thinking about how to make the summer hols as least stressful as possible. So on the sunday she'd broken up from school I said that I'd put £70 into her bank account that she could spend and budget as she pleased (basically so I didn't have to worry that she'd steal) she also wanted her ears pierced so I asked her that if she did have it done how would I know that she wouldn't steal earrings like before. DD very convincing told us that she knew how stupid she had been and that she knew the if she was caught again I'd take her to the police and she'd have a record.
So I went to work on the first day of the hols and dh was at home. Dd asked to go round friends house and dh said yes but you know your not allowed up town. she agreed.
1 1\2 hrs later dh gets phone call DD has been caught with a friend shoplifting £39 worth of stuff from new look!
She has been given a final warning by police I've asked youth offending team to get involved.
everything taken away from her completely grounded and complete adult supervision at all times.
So 3 weeks on I'm still waiting for her to apologise to me and DH. She's told my dad that she doesn't see why she should apologised to me as it's nothing to do with me and she apologised for wasting her dads time when he picked her up from station.
Sorry this is so long there's loads more to tell. I just feel sick and so angry and don't know where to go from here. I've withdrawn completely from DH and DD and just won't out of the whole situation.
Was kind of hoping someone else would post that their child had done same thing during the holidays just so I don't feel so alone with this.
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It seems I really F*C*ed up last time how the hell do I get through to Thieving DD this time!
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babalon · 12/08/2009 10:56
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