Dd (17) has, it seems, a form of ME.
We are only in the early stages of seeking treatment.
But need some advice please.
She has gone on holiday with 3 girlfriends. They are staying in our flat in France so at least it is somewhere she knows and should feel like 2nd home to her.
BUT although her friends are aware of her panic attacks (one of her symptoms) they've never had to really deal with her when she's having one.
She has now identified that the panic attacks only happen when she is out and about and getting too tired. There is a lot of learning she still has to do about how she can cope with her condition.
She rang me tonight very upset that they were all out and she was getting tired but they'd only taken one set of keys out so she had to wait for them etc etc.
I told her to make it clear to them that her energy levels weren't the same as theirs and they should all negotiate how the holiday will work best for all.
She texted me later to say they said they would go out and she would stay at the flat watching movies.
She is so upset and saying worst holiday ever, wants to come home or me to join her, blah blah.
SO my question is - what do I do?
To think that she will get bored with being on her own and miraculously get the energy to go clubbing after a couple of days is not likely.
To think that the others will have similar change and decide to stay in with her is just as unlikely.
I hate the idea of using this as a 'she's got to learn to toughen up' scenario and obviously don't want to think of her being unhappy and bored because of the ME while her friends are enjoying themselves.
We can't change flights as two of the girls have paid for tickets themselves and the other has already changed hers once, neither can dd come home leaving the other three there as we don't want teenage girls we hardly know using the flat.
Is it ridiculous of me to think of going down for three or four days (couldn't do and wouldn't want to do the whole week)?
Dd is forever optimistic that she can do more than her body will allow her and who can blame her for that? I'm always thrilled when she disappears for hours at a time rather than sitting at home in front of tv complaining of swollen glands, fevers etc.
(She's had countless bloodtests - it isn't glandular fever or anything else)
Having, literally, sleepless night over this.
Hope someone can advise.
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littlepollyflinders · 09/08/2009 06:13
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