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Ear piercing regrets - mine, not hers

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MotherOfGirls · 17/07/2009 12:57

Last summer my DD wanted her ears pierced. As she was 13 and very responsible, we said yes, but she then changed her mind.

She is now 14 and today she said she had decided she wanted to go ahead and so I took her along to a reputable beauty salon. The lady put pen marks on my dd's ears and asked me to check them. They looked fine. Now she has her earings I thing they are in the wrong place! She has very small lobes and the earings seem higher than centre on both sides. I haven't mentioned this and my dd seems happy but every time I look at her I see these earings in the wrong place and feel it is completely my fault and that she will be stuck with this for the rest of her life. I'm actually feeling quite sick when I look at them and when I think about it.

Anyone else had a similar experience? Should I mention it? Would we be able to let them heal and try again at a later date? I suspect the best thing is to leave it be but I really feel so awful I just want to cry. Am I just stressed about my baby growing up?!!!

Please help!

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bruffin · 17/07/2009 13:15

DD is 11 and just had hers repierced because of an accident with the first pair.
The girl who did her ears said they are not supposed to pierce where the scar tissue is.

If her ears are left to heal again you will 2 areas of scar tissue and even less choice of where to put the piercing.

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MotherOfGirls · 17/07/2009 13:18

Thanks, Bruffin. I thought that might be the case.

I'm trying hard to accept the situation. maybe it will look better in the morning!

But she's just come back in the room and I'm sure they are wrong!!!!!!!!

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girlywhirly · 22/07/2009 17:12

I think it depends on the types of earrings she will wear. I have small ear lobes too, but they have become a little larger over the years from wearing heavy earrings. I don't think it will be so noticeable with a hook fixing as a stud type. If the lobes are still swollen it may give a false impression.

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MotherOfGirls · 23/07/2009 08:27

Thanks, girlywhirly.

Having obtained an unbiaised opinion from a friend,who agreed the positioning on one ear was very slightly off, and checked with the beauty salon that they could re-do it immediately if necessary, I raised the issue with my dd. She was upset initially and then spent about a day in front of the mirror. I felt terrible but I explained that I had to mention it while it wasn't too late to fix it. Anyway, she has decided she is happy with the piercing where it is and I have started to get used to is now. Nothing I can do except drag her back to the salon and clearly that isn't an option!

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