This is why I joined this place! I've spoken to my parents about this and they've been no help, well they have but quite frankly I just need to rant!
Basically, I've been friends with someone for about 8 years, she's always been on the more immature side, but that's sort of what I like about her.
Anyway, recently, she's been getting matey with the 16 year olds who live in her street. I want to make it clear I have no problem with her having other friends, that's no issue, I have friends I work with etc. She's recently started pushing out me, and the rest of our group for these kids. She'll make plans and then change them, to go and be with these other people. Again, no problem with her having other mates.
Example, a few of us go to the gym together, and decided to go for a few drinks. I text her, asking if she wants to join us and get a text back saying "sorry mate, I can't, I'm with my mates." This is the sort of thing that bugs me, I thought we were mates as well. She could've said she had plans, that I could deal with. She also put a face on her status on fb, and then has just put one saying "Feeling much better now, thanks for talking to me X (insert name of female friend) i love you"- obviously the i love you was in a friendly way. Thing is, she used to talk to me, or someone in our group. I have a hard time making friends and I've known her so long it just feels like me and the rest of her long term mates are being pushed out.
Please, please tell me your teens have had this happen? Like I said, I find making friends hard, and now I keep feeling like I've done something that I don't know about and messed this friendship up. I can't talk to my mate about it because she gets really defensive and hard to deal with.
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LollipopViolet · 14/07/2009 14:32
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