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My 18 yd old DD doesnt want to move house.

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By Mon 08-Jun-09 13:31:06 Add message | Report | Contact poster
We are moving house on Friday because my 8 yr old DS is now at a fee paying school 18 miles away and the driving to and fro is terrible. Understandably my DD is digging her heels in and refusing to pack up any of her room. I can see that by Thursday evening she will still have done barely nothing and things will get pretty stressed. I do sympathise with her, as she has been at school and 6th from around here since she was 11. She has been an absolute teen terror from HELL, and still is. I feel its my fault as i left her Dad when she was 3yrs old. Our relationship is not good but time and time again i put up with her awful rudeness and turn the other cheek. I understand why she doesnt want to move, but she is leaving home in Sept to go to London University. Also, i know its not the ideal time as she has one more exam to do, which i will drive her over for.
I know this is a vague shot in the dark but have you any suggestions about how to tackle thing on Friday and Thursday night ??
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 14-Jun-09 21:49:03
Well i cant and wouldnt change the locks.... She needs a parents... has not lived with her Dad since she was 3 years... Someone has to be there for her. The bond betweeb mother and child is strong. No matter how awful they are you are always there for them..
Its 9.50 pm and she has just popped out with a friend to get something to eat. Hope when she gets out in this town with some mates she will start to settle and enjoy it through the summer..
My 8 yr old ds came back into new house today after 3 nights with his Dad. He seems happy and likes his bedroom.... thankgoodness !!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 14-Jun-09 18:23:08
She's 18, and has a job. Next time she's out clubbing, change the locks.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 13-Jun-09 21:57:52
well, we've moved and she is still being a little cow !!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 10-Jun-09 11:45:22
She is being a little cow today, so rude...disgraceful. The landlady had a fit when she came in to measure up my DDs bedroom carpet that has hair straaightener burn mark all over them. !! When i tell her off she just shouts me down. Roll on Sept when she goes to `Uni. My bills will go down immensely !!
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 09-Jun-09 18:22:16
Lost all sympathy now i've seen that she caused you to be evicted in the past.

Kick her arse.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 09-Jun-09 12:25:30
Here,, Here RUSTYbear..... thats is prob what will happen.... thrown into bin liners and boxes.. Then she wont get up ...oh well, i will send in the removal men to pick up her bed with her in it. (joke) . I sound hard, but she is SO horrible to me, really.
I will encourage her to get her mates round to the new house and have them for night.... !! Hell, dam !
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 09-Jun-09 11:31:39
If your DD is anything like mine she may be able to do it in a shorter time than you'd tink possible - my DD once left packing to go to uni until 10pm the night before - we told her we were leaving at 9am & she was ready - I think it took her till about 3am, but I'd gone to bed by then. I doubt if the packing would meet normal standards, but then it's her stuff...
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 09-Jun-09 11:23:35
Cheers Custardo... thats more like it. Paying for a to go on a nice day trip... i dont think so. She is earning more money than me at the pool lifeguarding. She buys clothes, shoes etc non-stop. Smokes and drinks etc. She is the biggest little Clubber in town. !!
"Pack her shit and fuck off"........you hard faced woman Custardo (JOKE) dear dear, you made me larf.....
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 09-Jun-09 11:19:08
well the harsh reality is that you have a date to move - so you have to arrange for her not to be there that weekend or over those couple of days - this becomes less of an emotional problem and more of a logistical one.

you need to buy her a tickert to something going on that weekend. send her to a relatives, plan something for her and a friend to go somewhere or visit something.

tickets to alton towers o thorpe park - early rise late coming home - or home the next day.

pick her up from coach station and take her to new house.

it literally has to be over the two days that you are moving.

or else you tell her to pack her shit and fuck off

or you tell her that she packs it or you bin it

or you tell her that if she lays a finger on you you will have her arrested for assault.

if she damages anything i the house you will have her arrested for criminal damage.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 09-Jun-09 11:18:51
Yes, CUSTARDO.. you are having a soppy moment.
MADAMCASTAfiore...i agree, she can behave like a spoilt brat and she is controlling me. I cry sometimes , she upsets me so much. She pushed me last night when i told her to come off my computer . I pay the Internet bills after all. She tears the Arse with everything.. She doesnt give a Dam.
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