Help before i really do murder dd1 and dd2.

[mommy6]

Dd1 is 18yr and dd2 is 15 and they really do not get on.They argue all the time about anything and everything.They bang around and shout at each other from the moment the get up.
This morning dd2 went over the shop to get something to take to school for a snack.She came back with a tin of tuna.Dd1 started shouting at her"why have you brought that i didn't say i wanted tuna".Dd2 "yes you did".
This went on and on with me trying to stop them both arguing and get 3 lo's ready.Dd2 went of to school early banging out the front door.Dd1 still moaning to me.
This kind of thing happens all the time,from whos washing up or drying,to where they are seating.They argue more then the lo's.
Dh gets up after hearing them arguing again,and tells dd1 to find somewhere else to live because he has had enough.Which doesn't really help but can understand him being fed up.They even argued christmas day.They can not be nice to each other at all.
Help please i really don't know what to do,but can't go on like this.

[Gallygirl]

Hang in there!

My boys argue a lot of the time, and when my eldest was 15 it was awful as he could be violent when he became inarticulate. On one occasion he picked his father up and threw him on the floor. Another time when he had to sit in a place at the table he didn't want to (too close to the wall) he thrust the table away, the leg caught in the tiled floor and snapped off sending dinner all over the floor. This the night be3fore my mother's funeral.

They still argue.. all of them, but there is less shouting now and I find it helpful if you can steer away from contentious issues and try to get them to see each others perspective when they have cooled down.

Good luck.

[Tabithacat]

I know exactly how you feel, I have two like this - similar ages and you end up not wanting to spend time with them all together.

I have had over a year of this stupid fighting, there is no logic to it at all. I kept telling them both off, then individually and then DH had a go which is normally the ultimatum, but nothing worked.

Two weeks ago we were at my Mums and they started. I told them off, nothing changed, they kept arguing. A couple of days later they were together and one of them said something and were about to kick off once again and I stopped them by saying how disappointed I was in them showing themselves up at their GPs house the other night, how embarrassing it was for me and that it made them look stupid.

They have not argued properly since (it's not perfect, but it is better than it was - now maybe they were going to grow out of it anyway, or maybe, just maybe it actually sunk in how pathetic it looked to others. Not sure but am enjoying the peace, so fingers crossed.

HTHs

[mumonthenet]

try this!

next time they are at it, wait until there's a moment of silence, then calmly announce that you've just recorded their silly screechings on a hidden recorder and you are going to play it back to their friends/boyfriends/next family party...

Or...maybe better...grab your camera and snap them all redfaced and angry...and threaten to put the pic on Facebook.