How long do you let them stay in bed in the mornings?

[BodenGroupie]

DD1 (15) would happily spend the entire day in bed. Don't mind at weekends in term time cos she has to get up at 6.30 in the week for school, but Christmas is the only school holiday where we're all off together and it's a real hassle trying to do anything.

Do you set limits or do you just leave them to it? She's perfect in every other way so I don't want to make too much of an issue of it, but I can't face two weeks of not doing anything together until it gets dark!

[needmorecoffee]

long as they want. My mu always used to get me up at 8am so i could mope round the house. I'd rather my teens were in bed!
ds1 tends to get up around 11, ds2 sometimes as late as 1pm.
Ask her if she wants to do antyhing, if she does, then she will get up for it.

[pagwatch]

I do a mix with DS1 ( also 15).

Yesterday we had to go to the market to collect the turkey so he had to be up before 8.00
Today I was taking DS2 out anyway so I left him in bad.

he will be expected to get up early xmas day and not spoil it for his sibs but I have several days when I just leave him to it, - it is give and take really. Compromise and consideration.

He never sleeps beyond 11.00 though anyway.

[BodenGroupie]

I find the problem is having to plan in advance for her to get up! If I said "tomorrow we shop" she'd leap up and plug the straighteners in, but we can't do anything impromptu cos she won't budge. Have to admit I was the same.

[mumeeee]

Leave them to it.We all had a lay in this morning.

[nappyaddict]

If you decide to do something impromptu can you not just nudge her and say we are going out to do such and such at Xam do you want to come?

[themoon66]

My boy shows his face around 2pm if left unchallenged. Sometimes he's not in the shower until 4pm.

DD used to be the same, but now she's 22 she gets up at a normal time.

[random]

Ds16 stays there till about 2ish sometimes later ...I just leave him to it

[BodenGroupie]

I suppose my nice pub lunch will be much cheaper today as she still hasn't surfaced. Wanders off whistling "always look on the bright side of life"

[nappyaddict]

I think I would wake her to see if she wanted to come too.

[slavetomykids]

DD is 14 and gets up about 11.
If we are going somewhere, I always tell her where we are going and give her the chance to get ready and come too. (ie I tell her 45 mins before hand) 9 times out of 10 she doesn't come but at least she has the choice.

[aGalChangedHerName]

As long as they like usually.

Ds1 gets up for work at 4.30am a lot so reckon he is entitles to sleep in the other days if he wants to.

[BodenGroupie]

Cancelled the pub lunch and have just been for an Indian - amazing how she leapt into action for that. She's hitting the sales tomorrow so will no doubt be up early for the train.

I think I just have to accept that she can only wake up for things that suit her plans (sob, my
baby...) and it's almost impossible to wake her
otherwise. She's been very ill this year so may still be catching up - I do miss her company though.

I was on the beach walking the dog at 8.30am - unheard of for me but we (I?) have to dogsit for a week and it's amazing how you revert to getting up for a baby mode!

[duchesse]

I have a freak 15 yr old child, usually up way before any of us. Unless he in under the weather or went to bed to extremely late, I don't think he has ever stayed in bed beyond 9am, and is more usually up at around 5.

Child number 2 (13 yrs old) is usually up by 8 at the latest.

Child number 3 (11) may well be the longest sleeper of them all- her usual time to arise i holidays is around 9am.

I have to say I would get them up by 10am unless they were ill, as my experience of other people's teens is that their whole day shifts upwards inexorably, until they are no longer living at the same time as anyone else, mealtimes are disrupted, and they hardly see another human being. None of these are desirable IMO.

[mumeeee]

I would never get my tens up at 10 am. I think at 21 ( no she's not a teen), 19 and 16 they are old enough to decide when they woant to get up. They were all up ny 8 on Christmas day but we didn't get up untill 11.
We all like to have a lay in when we are on holiday!

[DaniLeeds1990]

I'm think you should leave them to it but maybe if she is still in bed by about 11.30 or 12 maybe ask her if shes getting up. Or do things to encourage her getting up, e.g cooking nice dinner or other activities.
I used to be exactly the same, i am now 18 (almost 19) living on my own and im never in bed after 10am im usually awak by 9.30am even when not at work.

[purepurple]

tip: 15 year olds are normally up for doing things together, so leave her in bed and go out by yourself!

[UnquietDad]

DD (8) will happily read in bed until breakfast time, but DS (5) still barges in on us first thing in the morning, often as early as 6.30am at weekends. I can't wait for him to want to have a teenage lie-in!!

I used to have monster ones myself. I'd surface at about 12.45 after my parents had had lunch, and cook myself bacon and eggs. My mother never asked me if I considered the place to be a hotel, which is amazing really!

[cornsilk]

My 10 year old will stay in bed till about 11 sometimes - bliss. At the moment he's in the bath - he's been there for about 45 minutes. He's more sloth then boy.