Our DD is 16, and has been with her bf for 4 months now. She has been considering sleeping with him, and I am lucky enough to have open communication with her on these matters. I advised her if she felt mature enough to take things further, she had to be mature enough to sort out contraception and STD protection, and went with her (on her request) to the dr to sort it out.
It will be her first time, she had asked if she could have him stay over one night at Easter (in Jan) if they were still together.
He is full of tall stories, and from a very different background to her, and this week got arrested for Intent to Supply cannabis. He turned himself in and gave a signed statement before getting ANY legal advice.
He was charged with a 18yr old female from his area, that he has been spending more time with (since bailed not to contact her) than DD. He failed to contact her for 6 days after saying he would. She has told him that she a) doesn't want to sleep with him if theres a risk of a jail term, and b) that she will end it if he gets a term, but he can't understand and is still pestering her about Easter.
I guess I am wondering how to go about this, I know she doesn't want to lose her virginity until the situation in the courts is over, but I am also aware that she will not be able to say no if he tries it on when we are not there. I also know that saying "he's bad news" will have the opposite effect.
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Araldia · 22/03/2008 23:06
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