Not having a great time at the mo, lost a family member this week, ds's dad thought this would be a great time to make a reappearance and piss me off. So I'm not on top form anyway.
He doesn't have a lot of contact with ds (his choice) but he saw him this weekend and has told him he's moving to South Africa (I knew he was considering it, he told BIL). Ds came home from school yesterday and mentioned it just as I was about to go out of the door with dd. I asked how he felt about that and he said he wasn't happy, did I know, I told him that yes, I knew but didn't tell him because a) I'd only heard it from someone else and b) I really felt it was down to his dad to tell him.
Then he said 'Well so and so at school said I can choose who I want to live with', at which point I think my jaw must have hit the floor (he really caught me off guard) then, 'But I've decided I'll stay here with you'. I mumbled something about 'Erm thanks' and then I had to go out.
I'm reeling, I know he's a teen and they say thoughtless things and I shouldn't take it personally. But, fucking hell, ex lives less than a mile away, he manages to make the effort to see ds twice a year. He doesn't contribute financially and when I saw him in town Friday I had to prompt him to ask how his own son was! I'm furious with him (ex, not ds), I'm thinking that a ritual disembowellment with a grapefruit spoon might be a good way to assuage my feelings and I feel REALLY upset about ds's comment.
I'm not usually this wet, think I need someone to shake some sense into me, after all, ex will go. I will not have to make excuses for him to ds any longer and life will probably be easier for ds in the long run, no more being messed about, no more wondering why his dad doesn't bother etc.
Tell me to chin up!
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I REALLY need to vent my spleen, feeling incredibly sensitive at the mo and I need a good shake! Bit long.
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rantinghousewife · 13/03/2008 10:05
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