what time do your teenagers stay out untill at the weekend???

[smeeinachristmastreeinnit]

ive allowed ds2 out untill midnight tonight,but am having arguments with myself about if its too late or not!!!

[smeeinachristmastreeinnit]

ds2 is 15! prob should have added that!!!

[smeeinachristmastreeinnit]

blimey am i the only one with teenagers>?!!!!

[southeastastra]

how old. my 14 year old is out atm

[southeastastra]

argh sorry

[dooley1]

I guess it depends where it is.
If it is at a party where you are going to pick him up at midnight fair do's.
If it's just 'out' then I would say too late.

[smeeinachristmastreeinnit]

hes 15 and will be mostly at his friends and plans to get the 11.30 bus home with another friend.
the trouble with living in this village is teh only buses that run are either 7.38pm or 11.3opm,nothing in between,its daft!

[southeastastra]

i suppose as mine is a little younger he's only just started going out, so he's not usually out for long.

[southeastastra]

and where are they meant to go? they closed our local bowling alley - it's hard for teenagers now isn't it

[smeeinachristmastreeinnit]

it is southeastra, we have nowhere to go for them without getting in the car or on a bus, although i did chose to live in a village so knew it would be like this.
we are lucky in that we have alot of amenities within a short distance though. i know not everywhere is like that though and sympathise.

[southeastastra]

i hate it, but can't exactly keep him in if he wants to go out.

[dragonstitcher]

DD is 15. I let her stay out until 11pm last weekend. It was a 16th birthday party. She was taken there and picked up again. I'm not happy about her staying out if it's just hanging around though, cos she is young for her age, not streetwise, and there are a lot of rough kids around. She complains that her friends make fun of her for not going out, but she doesn't seem to be desparate to go out anyway.

[localgirl]

I have a ds just about 15. allowed out till 9.30 fridays because he is hanging around in local parks and streets. no where to go. He pushes for 10 but I don't want him to, the later it gets the rougher it gets round here on fridays, we, have many pubs round here. If he was going to a party and I was picking him up I would let him stay out till 12 ish i suppose. But smee-innit, if the buses only run at that time, what can you do? I can see how you would be backed into that decision. I think its scary all this teenager stuff. If he was with a friend it would make me feel a bit better but I would be wanting to pick him up myself if I could, and make it earlier. Although, tonight, it is so cold, I expected mine to come back early with frostbitten hands and feet - no sign of him yet thought - no sense no feelings (grin)

[mumeeee]

If my 15 year old is at a party or a concert then she would be allowed to stay out until midnight but she would not be allowed to make her own way home.DH would pick her up. She is not allowed to just be out hanging around.
My 17 year old is allowed to get herself home at this time of night but only if she is wiith friends if she is coming home on her own then DH picks her up

[localgirl]

:0

[localgirl]

why don't my grin work

[southeastastra]

snap localgirl, now i'm wondering what mine is up to

[mumeeee]

Both the 15 and 17 year old alawys tell me where they are going.

[localgirl]

southeast, don't you think that everything that is happening to them now is much worse and harder work than all the younger years? If i'd known what it was like having teenagers I think I would have opted for 1 cat and 1 dog instead

[localgirl]

Plus I know that there is drinking going on in the group mine is in - although he says he doesn't drink, I can't believe it, although he hasn't come back drunk or anything, I can smell it on him when he gets in car - he got into a fight a few weeks ago about a girl, and I think its all to do with alcohol it frightens me as I know nothing I can do can stop him, although I do talk to him about the dangers, he just glazes over with the "ok can I go now" look

[southeastastra]

lol at least it would be company!

it is worse though. i can't switch off until he gets back.

[southeastastra]

sorry that was to your 20:37 post

[localgirl]

I do think knowing where they are going helps, I drill it into mine to tell me where he is although I can never be sure he is actually where he says - short of electronically tracking him, not sure how to sort that one!

[smeeinachristmastreeinnit]

i would normally pick ds up on a friday night around 10ish as buses run at stupid times but i have my DN(2) staying over tonight and cant go out and leave her in bed.
its not atall rough in this area and the town he is in is extraordinarily quiet!
theres no way he would be coming home taht late if he wasnt with a friend.
i thought i would be more relaxed with ds2 as ive been through it before with ds1 but i worry more!

[southeastastra]

they seem to want to hang around in groups, not just visit one friend.

[localgirl]

I have been talking to friends with kids same age or older at work and all agree that really, at 15, there is nothing for it but to let them get on with it, hard though that is. It sounds alright in your case smee, if area is ok and he probably feels coming home late is grown up - this is good for their confidence. Better than drinking to feel grown up!