well its a touchy subject.... i just want some help and advice that i could either put into practise myself or advise my mum and dad....
my sister (17yo) has had a bad string of stealing money off my parents, it started about a year or so ago, and was a couple of £ a week or something, she was at collecge at the time and had a part time job, she has since gone into a modern aprenticship and gets a low but good enough wage for her living, she was living at home until last night when mum and dad kicked her out (will get to that in a mo) and she was paying £20 a week board and didn't have to do much around the house exept tidy up after herself.
she recently (about 6weeks ago) emptied the savings acount mum and dad had saved for 16yrs for her...she took and spent £1500 in a week...on nothing!! then this last week she has taken mum's bank card and taken £360 out of her account (which was a second account for special savings etc until going into ISAs or something, anyway there was no money in it but it had been overdrawn by £360 in a matter of days. she was collected from work yesterday by mu parents who then asked for their money back, she handed over £250 she had left and then they said she needed to leave home tonight....so having nowhere to go she is staying with her ex boyfriend and his family....i am not prepared to have her under my roof as firstly i really dont have the room, my two kids share a room and the spare bed is in their room for when they babysit etc and not for someone to live on, and secondly i dont feel i can trust her!!
she phoned me last night and said she hated herself for what she's done, and that when she does it she doesn't want to but cant stop herself doing it!! she is ill isnt she? if not why does she do it? and if she is where does she go for help? should i tell my parents what she's said? or will they think she's just being calculated and trying to get back into their house? i feel if it were my kids i wouldn't want to see her homeless....and she has been given a night at her ex's last night and another friend said she can sleep on her couch if needed but i'm worried she'll go into a shelter or something with all the youths who are drug takers etc, she is not abusive, has never taken drugs and i know she wouldn't survive.....my mum and i both have some level of depression, very mild i may add, but i feel my sister may have this too- i know she once considered suicide but haven't said anything as she told me afterwards in confidence.....
what do i do???? my mum hates what its come to, as a sister i see she's done wrong and would reccomend her leaving home, but as a mother i wouldn't do it to any of my kids.....
do i tell my parents in the hope they will realise she needs help and they let her home and get her the right help? or just let them feel they are doing right??....i am in tears typing this in worry for my sister, i just want someone to give me some help or advise on whats best to do??
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glaskham · 06/11/2007 13:15
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