Please help, I'm really worried. My dd is almost 13 and an only child. She has some good friends, two really long standing good friends from primary school and seems to be doing ok at school. She's in the top sets for everything apart from maths, where she asked to be put down a set as she struggled with it.
My problem is this: she is a very 'grown up' girl, a lot of which is a result of being around adults so much, but also she has had a lot of trauma and loss in her life. Her grandfather sexually assaulted her many times over 6 years ago. When it came out we went to the police, there was a trial, and her grandfather went to prison. (This is my ex's father). She was so brave but he robbed her of a peice of childhood, and i am very paranoid about her welfare as a result. I am also aware that her experiences may, or may not, have made her feel 'different'.
In primary school she used to complain that she and her friends were the 'geeks', being top at everything but not trendy or glamorous. There was a bitchy group of kids, they got on the msn and made fun of her calling her 'horse face' (she's got a pony, probably a bit jealous) etc. I put a stop to that then by going in and having a word with the teacher, but last night her and her friends were trick or treating, me and my dh were hanging back with the dogs watching, and i saw a large pack of them come round the corner, also trick or treating. One of them said - hey there's and made to cross the road. They then stopped as another said, no, don't, her mum's there!..
My dd didn't see any of this, but i was gripped with cold fear. what was the child going to do or say to my dd? I think it was the same bitchy crowd as primary school, it had just got bigger. A gang.
She walks to school with her two friends and I'm really worried. I always quiz her about school and she says everything's fine, But I wonder how much she would tell me because last time she did I went into school, perhaps making things worse for her.
I'm really concerned. Sorry for rambling
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horsygirl · 01/11/2007 12:06
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