Yesterday, I took my son and his friend, |(both 13) out for the day. DS hasn't seen this friend for a long while. They are old primary school friends. Since we last saw said friend, he has undergone a transformation - grown six inches, dresses like an emo. He is keen to be super cool and is heavily into indie music, under 18 music events, cool fashion.... and apparently, drugs.
As soon as he got in the car, he regaled ds and I with stories of how his friends get given drugs for free(!) at Camden, how easy it is to get drugs at his school, lists of different drugs and their street names etc etc. He then started asking ds detailed questions to test his drug knowledge. When it became clear ds didn't know what he was on about, he started addressing his drug conversations to me and ignoring ds (who was obviously not cool enough for him...)
I told the friend a few drug stories of my own - famous musicians who have died or had severe problems due to drugs.
The day passed ok and both boys seemed to enjoy each other's company. However the talk of drugs was never far away and this friend told a lot of things to my ds that he probably didn't know. Things tbh I didn't know either
I did think about having a word with the friend's mother when I dropped him back - she is a freind of mine, though I haven't kept up with her much recently.
However, on their kitchen table was a very explicit illustrated book about drugs - written for an older teenage audience I imagine. It went into great detail ie comic book pictures showing how to inject yourself with herion and the likely effects (pros and cons) of doing this.
I can see now where the friend gets his knowledge from as he was looking at it when we were there. His mother was obviously fine about this.
I am not exactly anti drug, and have experimented, but it's never been my thing. However I know the boy's parents, especially the mother, still take drugs from time to time (while holding down responsible jobs). They do also tend to romanticise the whole druggy thing in a way I find distastful if I am honest.
I have never felt this in any way threatened my son if we spent time with them, but now I am beginning to wonder if this friend is a potential bad influence on ds......
Should I say something to the mother, break off all contact between ds and his friend or ensure that ds's drug education is stepped up a gear so he is not out of his depth when he sees his friend?
PS Ds thinks his friend seems very immature and all this drug talk of his is stupid.
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So, we're in the car and my son's friend (13) starts telling us about all the drugs you can buy in Camden....
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MumTheMysterious · 31/08/2007 14:33
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