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iPhone 5 for DD(15)

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mumtoateen · 20/07/2014 14:25

Old work phone has been paid off, can either give the phone to DD (in return for her working 3 days a week for us, with things we really need done) or have her keep her 4. WWYD? She's already done a bit of work for us, and she wants the money (Work as a lawyer, we have an inspection soon, and we need a lot of work done, so will be giving her a £4.50 an hour wage as well as the phone, almost 500 files need sorting and closing and other things). Should we give it to her before she's done the work (She has promised she will work, has been looking for a job, applied to 20+ places but no replies.) or not give it to her? She's had amazing grades, and the contract she is on can be transferred between phones. (Did it between the original phone and her 4)

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RJnomore · 20/07/2014 14:27

Didnt you post this yesterday or am I having déjà vous?

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mumtoateen · 20/07/2014 14:29

In AIBU yes, but I want teen's parents views.

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HPparent · 20/07/2014 14:39

I am a parent of teens!

I would just give her the phone and swap over the contracts. But make it clear it is part of her payment for the file sorting.

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ElephantsNeverForgive · 20/07/2014 14:42

You are using your DD as cheap labour to sort your paperwork back log. I think she gets her phone!

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RJnomore · 20/07/2014 14:43

To be honest, I have a 14yo and if I had one going spare I would just give her it. I get that it's a luxury etc but I'm not quite sure what your re trying to achieve by either not giving it to her, or by making her "work" for it when actually you are already paying her an acceptable hourly rate?

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mumtoateen · 20/07/2014 14:49

elephants 'cheap labour' £5 an hour, while the minimum wage for her age group is £3.71
She offered to work for it, we agreed, we are desperate for the work, to the point we would pay £10 an hour but don't think it is a) viable and b) she's saving the money for a trip to south Africa and we said we'd match it, she's work 3 days a week, 6 hours a day, so it would be £180 a week, and it would end up being £900 in the summer, which we promised we'd match Blush

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mumtoateen · 20/07/2014 14:49

It varies between £4.50 and £5 before anyone calls em out, depending on the amount she does!

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RJnomore · 20/07/2014 15:13

I think £4.50 is fine for a 15yo, my friends 15yo earns £3.50 per hour.

I don't get all the angst about the phone though, I really don't, can I ask why it is such a big issue for you?

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adeucalione · 20/07/2014 15:26

If I had an unwanted phone I'd just give it to my DS, and maybe say it's because he's worked hard all year and achieved good grades.

The paid work is a separate issue IMO.

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Hakluyt · 20/07/2014 15:32

Just give her the phone! Phones always get handed down here-I get dps, dd gets mine and ds gets ds. Then we either sell or pass on ds's.


And pay her a decent wage for the job she's doing for you. Unconnected to the phone.

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tabulahrasa · 20/07/2014 15:39

DS and DD have my old iPhones, before that DD had DP's old work blackberry...if it's going spare and she wants it, what's the problem?

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ElephantsNeverForgive · 20/07/2014 15:40

Yes, but £3.17 is a bad joke, I got more than that as a teen 28 years ago working in a cafe.

£5 perhaps, but 4.50 is pushing it if she's actually working (not babysitting a sleeping DC which is another matter entirely).

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Hakluyt · 20/07/2014 15:51

"o the point we would pay £10 an hour but don't think it is a) viable and b) she's saving the money for a trip to south Africa and we said we'd match it, she's work 3 days a week, 6 hours a day, so it would be £180 a week, and it would end up being £900 in the summer, which we promised we'd match"

So you're not paying her a decent wage because you will end up having to match it?Hmm Can't you just talk it over with her?

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ChillySundays · 23/07/2014 15:22

£.450 is good for a 15 year old. I thought £3.71 was the minimum wage for a 16 yr old and that there is no minimum for under 16's. Say this as paper rounds pay per paper and when my DD reached 16 the company had to work out the length in time of her round and pay her minimum wage. Sure someone will correct me if I am wrong.
If you have said she gets the phone at the end you should stick to that

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Maryz · 24/07/2014 00:40

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ThatWasNice · 24/07/2014 00:58

I would just give her the phone.

I would still insist on setting up the parental security (restrictions) on it though. I know she is 15 but I still wouldn't want her to have free unfiltered access to everything on the web. Confused

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mumtoateen · 25/07/2014 10:05

Gave her the phone, she's worked for us a couple of times and will do more after we've been away

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