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DD is torn up about this?

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mumtoateen · 15/07/2014 17:18

DD(15) is on work experience so hasn't had contact with many people but a group of year 5's, the teachers and us. (DH, DS and I). She's tried texting her friends, and has seen that they received the message (iMessage) and eventually sees they have read them. They won't answer her though, and I don't know what to do. I think part of it may be the fact they're busy on their own placements, but I'm also worried they are ignoring her for no reason. What do i do?

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PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 15/07/2014 17:21

Nothing. Let her deal with it.

In fact, if you were going to do anything then you should probably advise your dd to stop texting them if they aren't going to be polite enough to reply.

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NatashaBee · 15/07/2014 17:23

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mumtoateen · 15/07/2014 17:26

DD's friends are both working 9-1 at a small independent day nursery
She's pretty upset, tries to tell her to stop, but she just doesn't listen :/

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PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 15/07/2014 17:28

Then there's nothing else you can do, she has to deal with it herself.

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adeucalione · 15/07/2014 19:03

Well they might be busy, she might have upset them or they might be being really mean but you can't make them answer her so I would just advise her to stop texting them for the sake of her own dignity.

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Happy36 · 15/07/2014 19:06

There is nothing you can do but comfort her. Chances are they are busy. (Could there be a problem with lack of credit or anything on their phones? Phone impounded by a parent as punishment?)

Distract her by asking her to help you cook, giving her some chores to do, playing a board game, going out for a walk or jog together, watching a film, etc.

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TeaLover422 · 18/07/2014 22:31

15 can be a horrible age for teenagers, especially girls. DD is in a very similar situation with her "friends" .They didn't bother to invite her when they going out but made it very clear with posts of photos on Facebook. Unfortunately you have to just leave them to get on with it and try to sort it out themselves, my only advice would be to encourage her to try to make new friends. I would also suggest that you reassure her not to jump to conclusions (dd also has a habit of this) and to not automatically think they are ignoring her and that there may be a valid reason behind them not replying. In the mean time, as others have suggested, do something nice with her, a shopping trip perhaps or to the cinema? :)

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