Not sure how accurate his interpretation is but broadly speaking, I think he is telling the truth.
He is in yr 8 and came from a different primary school, out of area. He made friends quite quickly in yr7 but over the last couple of years the friendships have not developed beyond mates in school. We have had sleep overs (not reciprocated), he tries frequently to meet up over weekend (they're always busy) and he has on occasions been excluded from parties (one memorable occasion a mum invited him by mistake and when this was realised, didn't even apologise - painful).
This morning he begged not to go to school (he has 'sick' days every so often but still 95% attendance); I said no but he burst out crying and told me some of his friends, one in particular had been calling him names (hippo for eg). He told me he walks away and they laugh. Then things get back to usual.
He is a little overweight but very active and fit though not at all skilled in sports, which is one of the difficulties. He is sociable and kind, funny and smart but he definitely tries too hard to be in with the 'in crowd'. He is now losing confidence. He told me today that every thing he thought he was in primary school is wrong - 1) he thought he was tall but now he is the shortest in the class 2) he thought he was bright but although he is doing ok he is not top of the class (to be honest he is lazy and we battle to get him to do anything work wise out of school ) 3) he thought he was sociable but now has no friends.
It is really upsetting. He hasn't reached puberty so maybe things will change for the better then? How do I make him realise that he needs to gravitate towards nicer, truer friends who might not be so cool but will like him for who he is? I was not popular in school and was ruthlessly bullied but when I got to 15 things changed and I found my feet (partly because I no longer cared about being popular).
Does anyone else have this with their child? Sorry it's long
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DS, 13 says he has no friends at school - don't know how to deal with this
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Homerun · 25/06/2014 11:36
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