I will link to my old thread later, am off out to a dietician appointment for DS3 soon, but the situation has gone from bad to worse with DD, will update everything that's gone on for the last few months later too - couldn't get on MN since the heart bleed password change thing because I can't access the email address I registered with when Noah was a young lad...been here too long!
Let's just say, it got yo the point yesterday where I've had to refuse to have her back for a second time, but this time SS are going to call the police for abandonment (probably because it costs too much to house a 16yo with multiple issues...) to get me to take her back. But I can't. I physically CAN'T any more.
I will do a massive update late tonight, the long and short of it is I was forced to have her home just before she turned 16, and I've had very minimal help again since from SS, and two days ago she smashed my house up and was throwing broken mirror shards at anyone who went near her.
She was charged for criminal damage (the second time she's been taken to court for damaging the home), and despite causing over £100 worth of damage, despite admitting the offence, the judge gave her an absolute discharge, so she now knows that she can smash my house up and I have NO protection from the police because yet again, I'M being made to pay the bloody victim surcharge...so I have to PAY to call the police to keep the rest of my children safe from her violence.
And SS have said that it will not be classed as a safeguarding issue for my other children (as they don't have SW's, ONLY DD does...) until one of them ACTUALLY gets hurt by her. They have actually stated that the needs of my other children and my own needs do NOT matter to them, ONLY DD's needs matter...(and their budget matters, reading between the lines)
If it is going to take one of my other children actually getting physically injured before they will take action, I have to protect them myself, as SS are REFUSING POINT BLANK to help, I CAN'T have her in the house when I don't even have the ability to call the police without getting a financial penalty myself as I'm financially responsible for her, EVEN if I'm the victim of the crime.
Did you know that she could seriously assault me, and I would be liable for her court costs FFS...
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CouthyMow · 04/06/2014 10:39
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