My 13 year old is well developed and since she left primary school has turned into an amazing young lady in many ways but in others....argh!!!!!
There are several issues, both with her and with the family unit: When she goes out she turns her phone off, is never home at the right time and when I have to track her down it ruins my night as my tummy is in knots until she gets home safely..and then she says she wants MORE freedom! I have tried talking to a couple of friends with similar aged daughters, who are well behaved, return when it is still daylight and unfortunately seem rather smug when they tell me!
I have tried enforcing boundaries which she ignores, I have taken away her phone, so she will borrow a friends, I have switched off the internet but she doesn't seem to care.....I have withdrawn money but she borrows from friends...I have grounded her but she will climb out of the window...the list goes on.
At the moment she is doing well at school and I have brought her up in a calm and loving environment.
BUT.....I am building up to splitting up with her stress-head dad who has taken me for granted for far too long, buys our daughter's affections and has been known to say he ' never wanted kids'....So I am being brave and have met someone else and I now know my husband has too...which is good as he would never be able to live on his own and has threatened me for the last two years with notions of suicide etc if I left him....but now he has the chance of someone else taking over the 'house wife duties' he is stronger and more likely to move on.
How do I move forward and minimise the effect her dad moving out will have on her without sending her even more off the rails? I can't stay in a loveless marriage for the sake of the kids..it's not fair on anyone, especially as we are now living in the same house but seeing other people ( in secret).
So any advice would be great. Thanks! Even writing all this down has made me feel better! x
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mummyneedssupport · 02/06/2014 17:43
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