I married a widower with a teenage son,we are coming up to our first anniversary. We are struggling to manage the teenage violent temper. There was an incident early on where the lad tried to hit me, I blocked him(did self defence in my younger days) I was really calm but scared and told him it was unacceptable. He made weird threats saying he'd make up a story and report me to social services for child abuse, we were sat at dinner and it was very random, I was chilled and said lies get exposed and he'd be in more trouble and life would be horrendous, he laughed. Amazing improvement all round, better at home,school,friends started coming round. I admit to having quite firm rules but he was brilliant. He is a fab kid. Then we noticed a pattern every 4 to 6 weeks has has a major explosion, triggers are tiny and the violence is terrifying, he had his dad on the floor by his throat and his fist ready to punch and I'm yelling with my hand out back off (like a cop in some drama,while holding onto two dogs). It did seem to stop him and he ran out if the house. Usually hubby has gone after him, this time he loaded me and dogs into the car, leaving mobiles at home(and house unlocked) and we drove out to the river and walked the dogs. We waited an hour and went home. It was like nothing had happened, kid is sat watching tv saying his hand is sore. One day of excellent sweet child and then he belted the dog(puppy) this morning because it had some fluff in its mouth. I grabbed the dogs and took them into the bedroom and he left for school. Hubby said he wants to wait to see if there is a hormone pattern, kid is so strong and I dread to think what he is capable of.
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