SpaceCadet...how are things today?

[Blandmum]

Hope you are OK

[PollyLogos]

I was thinking about you too this morning. Hope you are OK

[moondog]

Me too.
Read your thread in sheer horror.
(I think Custy's advice was brilliant btw.)

[Saturn74]

I've been thinking about you too - I hope everything is OK this morning.

[Twinkie1]

Spacecadet - your DD reminds me of my sister and I have to say her behaviour left me so frightened so many times when she came for me - I know you love her but if she is behaving so appallingly to your other kids they deserve to be protected from her to - its just like domestic violence between husband and wife - it leaves scars forever!!

My BS (Big Sister) ended up in care - and she realised that it was shit - she had none of the power - no money, no love and no one reacted when she went ballistic - they were all used to it you see, she was just another in a long line of difunctional little cows who thought that they were in control.

They want to comer back so quickly then - they can have all the freedom they want but they soon realise that the only people who offer them anythig want something back.

[3littlefrogs]

So sorry to read about your desperate situation. Haven't had a chance to read the whole thread, but has anyone suggested contacting the NSPCC? I mean from the standpoint that younger children may be at risk. I am probably hopelessly out of date (used to be a health visitor back in the 70s) but I always found the voluntary sector to be more helpful than social services. Other than that I can't think of anything to add to what others have said. It is so hard coping with teenagers at the best of times. I hope you will find some support.

[Saturn74]

bump

[moondog]

I think she is posting on the original thread.

[Saturn74]

Thanks, Moondog. I saw she had recently posted - just bumped this in case she hadn't seen it.

[SpaceCadet]

i never even saw this thread sorry MB.
cut and pasted from other thread
right..last night..dd finally calmed down at midnight...at which point i could hear her sobbing..i went upstairs and she was sat on the bed..crying out" no opne wants me..even my dad doesnt want me"..cue long chat that went on till 2 am. dd sat glaring at me as though i was godzilla, but against my better judgement, i told her that her real father..did love her but had difficulty showing it and as he had problems of his own at the moment was probably wrapped up in those.
i told her that i loved her too, that just because she was a teen and nearly grown up, didnt mean id stopped loving her..she said, but you hate me, i said no, i hate your behaviour..not you.
there were a lot of tears and she went to bed, she let me cuddle her and i reminded her that above all she was my daughter and i loved her, that i loved all my children
i dont know what will happen today..she is still in bed.