Possibly wrong title but...
Our 16 yr old has had a poor history of managing boys. She's an attractive girl but at this age boys are extremely possessive and jealous over what they see is their territory.
She keeps managing to give the impression she is interested. And even when she says she's not, the lads just assume its a waiting game and stalk her.
She's the architect of her own downfall to some extent, went out with the same guy three times before she was convinced he was a) a self obsessed mummy's boy and b) a serial cheat.
She then used some poor bloke just to get back at the ex, for which we have had harsh words with her.
Recently she struck up a friendship with another guy, to us it had all the trappings of being a boyfriend without the official title. Seems he has assumed that too. She's now told him he's just a friend.
She's supposed to be studying for her exams, but she is stressing about the last three boys in her life. Fair enough they're being dicks but in reality they're just being teenage boys with limited control of their emotions and an even more limited appreciation of what a relationship looks and feels like.
They turn up at the same parties, drink comes into play, she can't just enjoy herself without them kicking off, pressurising her into giving in, punching things when there's two of them in the same room. Late night texts follow. All of which are not helping her concentrate on revision, and she did so badly in her prelims her teachers are dismayed.
Trouble is she's too nice. Se won't just say F off and leave me alone, she gets into discussion with them and she doesn't understand that even that is a signal the door may still be open.
Any tips? She is realistic enough to know a boyfriend right now is not good timing, and she is the architect of her own downfall to an extent, but if there's one act or one defining moment she can go through which can get these three guys off her back that would be good to know.
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BuzzLightbulb · 22/02/2014 20:28
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