Thank you to all the people here who gave me wise advice about how not to get drawn into never-ending 'getting nowhere here' escalating arguments with 13 yr old daughter ......
This morning, despite being told very clearly not to, she was caught using her mobile whilst in the bath. Phone taken away. Daughter gets out of bath and stands stark naked in the hallway screeching at me trying make the argument as complicated and all-involving as possible. I stood my ground, told her to get back in the bath despite the aggressive 'I NEED my phone' right in my face. On me threatening to remove all privileges until after Christmas (quietly on my part, and with a countdown 1-to-10) unless she got back in the bath right now, she actually did.
Punishment - not for taking her phone into the bathroom, but aggressively arguing/being defiant when caught - nice new mobile taken away, substituted with crappy old phone with no internet access until next Saturday - daughter naturally furious.
An hour later she apologized and has accepted the punishment.
Success. Mum & Dad in control, not her.
Thanks everyone!
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MrsBright · 14/12/2013 21:01
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