My son turns 18 next week. He's the youngest of 3, with 2 sisters - 1 at uni and 1 abroad. He has been aggressive, unpleasant and abusive towards me for some years now, for reasons he's never articulated but I suspect has a lot to do with his father and I having been separated for many years. He's been slightly better over the past couple of years as he appears happier in himself having lost a lot of weight, and is now back attending school. Basically, my home life is pretty miserable after years of back story of incessant stealing, constant mess and aggressiveness from him. The only time I involved the police was when he broke down my bedroom door, but there have been many instances of violence from him and he's bigger than me and does frighten me. Nowadays I try to keep out of his way and not antagonise him in any way and, to be honest, have kept going with the positive thought that his sisters have become so much nicer as they've got older and, with a bit of luck, he'll be off to uni soon and grow up. However, this year he has decided to change his A level subjects so has gone back to the AS stage, and has recently, again, upped the unpleasantness. This means there is probably another 18 months of living like this and, after being told this morning to f%%k of and go and kill myself, I am just despairing at the thought. What is my parental responsibility once he turns 18? Can I physically get him out (no idea where - his father lives 200 miles away)?
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Whattodowithit · 11/12/2013 18:26
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