I need some advice please.
My husband and I have 6 children the eldest being a 13 year old boy the youngest being a 2 year old girl.
The issue is my son. He extremely selfish and high maintenance for want of a better word. If he doesn't get his own way everyone in the house knows about it. I know he is in his teenage years so a lot of Kevin and perry is going on but for an example Christmas. Every year for a guide we spend around £250 per child and are very fair with it. They all get the same amount. My son this year wants and xbox one. We have explained that's not possible as it is out of our price range so he kicks off how he never has anything. He bought himself an xbox last year purely because he got one for the previous Christmas but decided to take it apart to modify it and broke it. It was shared with his brother age 12 but we refused to buy another. He has a laptop a computer and they share a ps3 also. He also has an iPhone and a tablet (which he broke). These things were presents not handed on a plate. Everything has to be brand names or he won't wear it then complains he has no clothes. The list goes on. We tried to be fair and a rule in my house is when they start high school for chores they can have £20 each child. Even when number 6 gets there the same will apply. I use the child benefit for this. The chores were washing up everyday and that's it. Our thinking was if they want to go out with their friends they have the money to do so as we don't always have spare cash. If they want £100 pair of trainers rather than a £40 pair that I would buy they can put the extra to it. This wasn't good enough as they wouldn't do their job. By they I mean the 2 boys I have at high school. We took the jobs away but I was forever dipping in my purse. (They both get £3.50 a day for school and the shop but if I can't provide money for the shop I. The worst mother ever!)We said we will trial them back for their benefit but until they can do the job without moaning it would be £10. They both refused saying it wasn't worth it and now don't do anything! We are struggling to find mutual ground with anything and I'm worrying that my 13 year old will ruin Christmas Day by sulking that what he gets is rubbish and he didn't want it. Im sorry for the long speech and I could go on but we are at our wits end. Has anyone got any advice?
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Lisacb32 · 19/11/2013 23:10
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