Our house and (radiators) are heated by a solid fuel burner. For all of my adult life I have fetched and chopped all the wood for it, organising a family work gang to help but doing the brunt of it myself. It's a blessing because I don't have enough money to pay for normal heating.
Over the past 2 years I've developed severe osteoarthritis, osteoporosis and a slipped disc. I've had to give up my work as a gardener and also dancing, which I loved.
So last month I paid my BIL to deliver some logs to us. He did it for a very small amount so I said that DS would be able to carry, split and stack the bigger logs.
This was three weeks ago now and DS has either kept putting it off or refusing to do it. The logs are out on the grass at the front of the house, they need to be carried up 7 seven steps and taken round the back to be split.
I've been managing with an electric radiator in my room and staying in there.
DS is bigger than me and obviously stronger now that I'm debilitated.
I have taken his laptop away for the past three days because he didn't do it last weekend when I was away and he was home alone. He is at college Mon-Weds so today is the day really.
He has been barricading himself in his room. He will employ every tactic known to defer the work (indefinitely). He spent 5 minutes moving some logs an hour ago but came back in saying he wanted to eat first.
I have said no food, no computer, nothing will I provide for him until those logs are moved, split and stacked.
It's probably 2 hrs work and he had breakfast at 11.
My last threat was that when my neighbour's husband gets home I will get him to speak to DS about it. (Said husband is a stocky working man who doesn't suffer fools gladly).
So...any more bright ideas? I have bargained, shouted and made myself upset now.
I just wish I wasn't so fucking broken, I would be happy to do this kind of work.
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DS16 refusing to help. I'm not physically fit enough to do it myself.
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CuttedUpPear · 17/10/2013 12:48
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