Spending more time moanng about stuff than doing it.

[Sparklingbrook]

DS1 (14)

[PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline]

DS1 (10-early teenager) re homework.

[Sparklingbrook]

Just why Pete? I have just been moaned at for 10 minutes because I had the cheek to book him an eye test for today.

He didn't stop for breath.

[PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline]

I have no idea. I only want to know when it will stop.

[Sparklingbrook]

It's at ten past ten. He isn't even getting ready. It's pointless apparently. And he can see.

[PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline]

Ah! The logic of children.

[Sparklingbrook]

He is moaning at DH now.

[monikar]

Sparkling my DD is 17 and is still the same - I often say 'you have spent the past 20 minutes moaning about X - in that time you could have it done' . It's frustrating isn't it?

[Sparklingbrook]

Exactly Monikar. It makes no sense at all.

DS2 does the same about having a shower. He spent half an hour objecting to having one the other night.

[treaclesoda]

they sound like some of my former work colleagues Bet everyone has had one at some stage, the one who spends so long moaning about not having time to do stuff that they could have had it done! But at least we don't have to live with our colleagues. It must be draining.

[secretscwirrels]

Sparkling I had just had the same with DS1 (17) last week over a dental check up.
His teeth are fine and apparently always will be so there is no need to go to the dentist.

[Sparklingbrook]

That's very true actually treacle. I used to work in an office like that.

[monikar]

I think among their friends there is a huge amount of 'I've got soooo much to do' and they empathise with each other in a 'oh me too, I've got soooo much to do too', but don't do it. When I give DD and her friends lifts they often discuss it in the car. However, this doesn't wash with us does it - we have tons to do too but as I pointed out to DD, we just have to get on and do it. They'll learn...

[Sparklingbrook]

Ooh. Now there's shouting.

[SanityClause]

A couple of nights ago, DH told our three that one had to clear and wipe down the table, one had to empty the dishwasher, and the other had to fill it.

DS (9) sat down to finish his homework, and was going to do the table, after.

DD1 (14) said she would fill the dishwasher, leaving DD2 (12) to empty it first. But DD2 did not want to empty, and DD1 would not budge. She said she would empty the next night, and DD2 could fill. DD2 stomped off and said she wouldn't do either. I followed, and said I wouldn't get involved in who did what, but it all had to be done. I said it wasn't fair of her to expect me to cook meals, do washing, blah, blah, blah, and her to do nothing. She would come down and do one of the jobs.

(At is point, DH wades in and starts doing a martyr act, about how he'll do it all himself. I tell him to stop being a martyr.)

DS then comes in from doing his homework, and says he will empty, and DD2 can clear and wipe. (DS is my hero!)

This whole scenario took as long as it would take for the three of them to do the three jobs, which they all did, anyway, and took up a loooooad of energy!


Gaaaaaagh!

[PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline]

Can someone tells me it gets better?

My Dad says it does but only when they move out.

[Sparklingbrook]

They have left the house. I bet DS1 is being all smiley for the Optician.

[GemmaTeller]

My son used to say 'but mum, by the time you've shown me how to do it you could have just done it yourself'

He's all grown up now and a lovely considerate man (and very domesticated)

[secretscwirrels]

SanityClause

Whatever I ask.
I'll do it later.
Whatever they have to do.
I'll do it later.
DS2 has mocks in a week's time. He's going to revise later.
Don't even get me started on DS1s UCAS application.

[Sparklingbrook]

secret.

DS2's reply to any request is 'in a sec'.

[bigTillyMint]

This all sounds horribly familiar!

DD is constantly moaning about the amount of homework she has to do and the pressure of GCSE's (not for another year yet, god help us!) and yet she still finds time to FB/watch catchup/YouTube/BBM, etc, etc

[wigglybeezer]

I remember my mother going to bed straight after Christmas dinner once becuase my sister and I moaned and argued when she asked us to make the coffee at the end of the meal. Feel very guilty whenever I think about it...
And, yes, DS1 is the world's worst moaner and procrastinator.

[Sparklingbrook]

OMG. he has spent the last hour moaning about the 'pointless' eye examination.

We now start the 'getting ready for football' moaning.

[bubby64]

Twin Ds both moaning here, and have been doing so continually for last 20minutes, about taking washed, ironed, folded clothes upstairs The thng is, I know even when they finally get taken to thier rooms they will stay in the basket and not get put awsy in the drawers.

[Sparklingbrook]

bubby double moaning?

[bigTillyMint]

Well I took DD for a late breakfast this morning - thought it would be a nice mum/daughter time.
She spent 90% of the time moaning - about school, wanting a puppy, pointlessness of going to uni (to be saddled with debt), gym (old coach has left, not happy with new system but won't quit), ended with saying that she's planning to move out at 16

And bubby, that's exactly what happens to clean clothes in our house