Well where to start? 4 weeks ago I thought I had a relatively happy family but since then our lives have collapsed. It started with me discovering my DD had sexted selfies in her underwear to a boy in her year. Confronted her on this, had "the talk" re safety, control of her image etc etc. which we've done in the past but obviously didn't sink in! She appeared fairly mortified that we'd caught her and we moved on. But checked her texts sporadically the following week (long, boring story re how/why I could do this as I stopped doing it while ago, trying to respect her privacy....big mistake probably) Anyway then discover some conversation with friend referring to her "depression and breakdown." Again feel I have to act on this knowledge, at which point she bursts into tears and tells me she's depressed, hates herself, hates her body etc etc. I'm shocked as she is beautiful, clever, popular at school and can't believe a) she feels like this and b) she's managed to hide it from us. 2 days later I have two of her friends' mothers calling me independently of each other to tell me essentially the same thing: to say their daughters are extremely worried about her and that she's been cutting herself, is not eating during the day, and after dinner at night is making herself sick. She doesn't know her friends have passed this info on through their own mothers, and I've been sworn to secrecy so as not to compromise these friendships. Next instalment; 2 days ago a third mother invited me for coffee to drop the bombshell that she has apparently had unprotected sex and an abortion...at the age of 14!!! (She only turned 15 last week).
Again she doesn't know I know this but I'm planning to sit her down at the weekend and have another talk, although again I can't say how I know this. I've been repeatedly trying to have conversations with her since this all came to light but she is very closed and hasn't admitted any of the above. Any advice welcome from the big stuff down to what my opening lines are going to be on Sat morning?!!!
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15 yr old DD; depression, cutting, starving, poss abortion...how bad can it get?
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nicknamehaha · 03/10/2013 15:11
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