Hi, New here, and wanting to get some perspective on my 13 yo and his mood swings. He turned 13 last month, and has always been prone to grumpy/moody spells, but OMG, has this kicked in big time!
He is totally Jekyll and Hyde at the moment; one minute you can be having quite a rational conversation, the next he looks at you like he could kill you and goes off on a rant. I get that I am almost afraid to talk to him some days. I try so hard to keep a lid on my anger with him, as I know he is probably going through so many hormonal changes and internal turmoil, but the way he speaks to me sometimes I just can't let it go. Hubby is totally upset by it all, blaming us for being useless parents as otherwise we wouldn't have such an unhappy and angry child, whilst I try to convince him this is just the teenager kicking in and we have to bear with it.
Yesterday we went out for a meal in the evening (hubby's birthday today), and everything was fine to start with, we were chatting about our day, talking about school etc. Suddenly DS went off on one, face changed to the Angry Young Man mode, he started biting our heads off at every opportunity. By the time we got home, he had calmed down abit, but then something so silly set him off again - he is always trailing his shoe laces, and hubby said as we left the meal "you will trip over them one day". DS got out of the car and fell over his laces - we both tried to stifle a laugh, and until recently he would have laughed too, but he stormed into the house, ranting and balling (and swearing which is not like him at all). Hubby told him to go to his room and if he couldn't come down in a better mood, not to come down at all. Didn't see him until 7.30 this morning, when he got up for school, totally blanked us both, didn't speak and went out the door at 8.15 without even looking at either of us. I hate sending him to school like this.
I just don't know how to deal with it. We have tried reasoning with him, removing privileges (like laptop etc), and just ignoring him, but nothing works and we end up feeling resentful and angry ourselves, and he seems totally unphased and carries on in his own sweet way, doing exactly as he wants and treating us like dirt!
I know there is no actual answer to this, and we just have to ride the storm until his hormones level out and the lovely young man we know he can be surfaces again. Don't get me wrong, he is good in so many ways - never in trouble at school, doing well there in fact and on the whole we know he is a good lad, but this constant bickering, arguments and downright hatred of us he seems to be showing all the time is getting us down (and more importantly can't be doing him much good either). I don't expect anyone to make this better, but just wanted to share and hope we are not alone with this.
Thanks, and sorry to the long, rambling first post. x x
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LeanneA · 12/09/2013 09:15
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