Ok, I know this is somewhat unorthodox, but I need help and can't think of anywhere else to ask. takes deep breath I am a 16 year old girl, and I would appreciate the opinions of other mums in regard to my mum's behaviour.
I was one of the many getting my GCSE results last week, and I got 5 A*s, 3 As and 2 Bs. I was predicted straight As so I have underperformed slightly. I am a little disappointed as the 2 Bs are in subjects that I worked really hard on, but am happy overall because I got into a brilliant 6th form and can do all my chosen A Levels. 
My DM, however, is not so thrilled. She thinks I have not performed to my potential, which I haven't, but I told her that I have accepted this and that I am going to really push myself in the subjects I love at A Level. However, she continues to believe that I am 'not bothered' about the B grades that are 'dragging me down' and that I need to fix my attitude, She is also constantly asking me what my peers got, which is to be expected, but irritating because many have got straight As. Even though I start college next week I just feel like she will not stop rabbiting on about results. If I try and approach the topic with her, she gets defensive (is it not a mother's right to feel disappointed, you have had every opportunity etc.)
Today I thought she might have moved on, but now she is saying things like 'everyone else has done so much better than her', 'why did she give up', 'why can't I get a break in life', 'God give me a break' etc. Part of me thinks she is just being melodramatic, but what she is saying makes me feel terrible, like I have let her down so badly.
Sorry for the mammoth post, but I would really appreciate some opinions; would you say this in front of your teenage DC, and what would you suggest as a comeback/approach to this?
Thanks so much. 
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mochawombat · 27/08/2013 20:42
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Thanks for your posts everyone :)
For those asking if my mum has a friend, sister etc to talk to her the answer is unfortunately no- no close relatives nearby or that we keep in touch with regularly. Most of DMs friends are the mums of my friends, and of course we can't give the wrong impression can we? She has even told me to tell people I got 5 As instead of 3As and 2Bs. DF is around and is very supportive and has told me how proud he is, but will do nothing when mum is actually saying these things. I am oldest sibling of 2 so no help there.
For the poster asking if this has happened before- I did google what you suggested, the stuff I found was a bit heavy but vaguely familiar. Will try and approach it gently with DF. :)
For the poster with the daughter going to uni, that's brill! My DM is now convinced no RG uni will even look at me because of the B grades.
To the last poster, most of my friends (15-16) know what Mumsnet is but not exactly how it works, and I've heard if some of the articles/campaigns they've done. But dw, your secret's not out yet! 
I love C4ro's post! All of those are viable options...
Your mum has obviously done a pretty good job, bringing you up to be a sensible, articulate, fair-minded, diplomatic, caring, intelligent, high-achieving (yes!) girl... Presumably she's got 'stuck' in some major anxiety about you and your future, if she's lost sight of all that.
The important thing is for you not to take on her anxieties and other negative feelings. They're hers. One of the great things about growing up is that, eventually, you get to live the life you want, rather than the one your parents think you should have!
If your mum is often negative and you feel her dragging you down, you'll find yourself avoiding her. If she just 'has her moments' you can laugh them off, or pity her, or tell her to sort herself out and enjoy life!
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