My oldest daughter, in the midst of an argument, reported me to Children's Services after she told me to stop letting my 16 yr old daughter continue looking after horses owned by a man who has been accused of CSE against a 17 yr old. I know both parties and dont believe the accusation, but to safeguard my daughter I talked to her at length about grooming, signs to look out for, etc and keeping herself safe. I started popping in regularly and have spent a lot of time in their company and was satisfied she was at no risk and that it would be more detrimental to keep her from the horses which are her passion. CS did a lot of digging and came up with only positive reports about my daughter who did great at school and has no issues or history of any problems, and after the first visit the SW assured me she had no concerns about my daughter's welfare. We were invited to the Child Protection Conference but the SW did not impress upon us the importance of attending - she merely said it would be advisable. Neither of us wanted to go because we did not want to have to confront my eldest who I assumed would be there, and because of this they have imposed a Child Protection Order on my daughter, despite absolutely no evidence of her being at risk and despite the fact that the man hasn't even been found guilty.
There were no concerns at all about her wellbeing or my parenting and yet they have imposed this on the basis of my NEGLECT. This is so far from the truth as I have always been there for both my girls - I go out rarely (and I mean rarely), don't smoke, don't drink, and haven't had a relationship with a man since my daughter's father, 16 yrs ago - I am always available and I am very close to my daughter who confides in me personal and intimate things. She is seeing a solicitor on Monday and at some stage I intend to write a book about all my negative experiences with fostering and Children's Services. I had a lot of conflict with them whilst a foster carer which resulted in them having to make changes in policies and procedures and eventually some trumped-up allegations were made against me which should never have been taken seriously and I de-registered but kept on my current foster son who has been with me for 5 years and will be until he turns 21. In my opinion, as soon as my name came up they decided it was the ideal opportunity to get their own back on me since they failed to get their own way previously. Does anyone else have similar experiences? My daughter is so distressed by all this and has lost a lot of weight in the past two weeks, from all the stress over it.
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rightsagainstCS · 02/08/2013 12:51
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