What happened last night - continuation from my other topic.

(15 Posts)
Coffeenowplease Sun 04-Aug-13 20:46:03

Hows it going OP ?

mumblechum1 Thu 25-Jul-13 20:26:05

Well done. You've taken the first step to regaining control. I hope your daughter feels reassured now.

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mumat39 Thu 25-Jul-13 20:22:31

Hi there. I hope you're ok.

I really hope he takes on board what you've said. Good Luck. It can't have been easy, but your DD will appreciate it one day.

Helpyourself Thu 25-Jul-13 20:09:10

Well done and good luck.

Apileofballyhoo Thu 25-Jul-13 19:54:39

That's good advice from mumeeee - you need support for yourself too. Hope your day went ok today. flowers

mumeeee Thu 25-Jul-13 15:40:05

Well done OP for taking on some of the advice and starting too act on it. Keep going and also try to get some help for yourself.

cory Thu 25-Jul-13 14:19:26

Well done, hang in there. flowers

As Poledra says, you may actually need to spell out to him that hitting his sister is the same as hitting any random stranger; at his age, this counts as assault and is the kind of thing people go to prison for.

Just stay firm now.

womanofthehouse Thu 25-Jul-13 13:28:39

I'm going to look around for anger management classes and talk to him when he's calmer or actually in the house. (He ran off to his girlfriends this morning before I was up)

Apileofballyhoo Thu 25-Jul-13 13:25:46

Well done to you. Is there any help you can get for your son? I know DD does need support but clearly your son is in some kind of turmoil that is causing him to behave so terribly. (Sorry of you've covered this before.)

Poledra Thu 25-Jul-13 13:22:04

Well done (I lurked on your other thread) - now you and DH need to stay strong and mean what you said.

'I haven't done anything' means your son does not recognise there is no difference between him hitting his sister and him hitting a non-family member in the street. Perhaps you and/or DH need to point this out to him when he is calmer. As for the expletives, well, that's the 16-yo equivalent of 'I hate you!'. He's not actually very mature for his age, is he?

HeySoulSister Thu 25-Jul-13 13:21:54

but did he not hear you say its from now on.....next time it happens

womanofthehouse Thu 25-Jul-13 13:18:35

He saying "You can't phone the police on me I haven't done anything" " How could you kick your own son out" and calling me a variety of expletives I'd rather not repeat.

nenevomito Thu 25-Jul-13 13:18:28

I'm really pleased that you did this. You just need to keep the strength to see this through now as if you don't call the police the next time he assaults or abuses her, the damage will be enormous.

HeySoulSister Thu 25-Jul-13 13:16:56

why was he shouting? whats his 'argument' here?

womanofthehouse Thu 25-Jul-13 13:15:21

DD and DH returned home at just after 6, we sat down and had dinner together and I told that if he hits her again she needs to tell me straight away and I will be phoning the police. And I also told her that if she wants counselling then it will be available to her, after the holidays I will also be contacting to school to ask about their student support etc.

DS comes home at 8 (1 hour after I told him to come home)

I told him that he needs to stop with his disgusting behaviour towards DD, and also the way he speaks and treats me, because it is not acceptable to treat anyone like that and I will be phoning the police the very second he next lays a finger on DD because he is mentally abusing her, and she is scared in her own home, and she will not be the one leaving if his behaviour continues.

A lot of shouting ensued (from DS) and he tried to storm out, but DH blocked his exit.

I continued to speak to him reiterating what I said already.

He then stormed up to his room, all devices removed so he can sit in there and stew.

Hopefully he has realised the severity of his actions and will not be doing it again, but only time will tell.

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