YD is sitting downstairs in front of tv, it's 11.25 am, she is going away tomorrow morning at 4am (yes, I DO have to take her to the tour bus then) with her band group abroad, a trip WE have paid for, and for which she prob expects spending money for from US. She can't find some of the stuff she needs (strapless bra etc..not surprised considering the state of her room ) and thinks I should go with her to buy new ones out of my money...but I'm not allowed in her room to see if I can find said bras etc.
She is whining about getting a job and got annoyed when I told her to look for one she could get to under her own steam/bus etc without me having to take and pick her up all the time. So far, she has done very little about getting one apart from dropping off a three cvs at my suggestion at a couple of shops I knew were losing weekend staff (to university) She thinks I know NOTHIN, partic about getting a job and that I'm talking out my b*m when I told her to phone round ("Well I've looked on line and there's nothing so it's pointless.") despite the fact her elder sister did exactly that and got a job, even though none were showing on the place's website.
In fact I see little of YD, she sits in her room on her I pad or phone and interacts with us very little...except when she wants something. In fact she is on her mobile texting so much she even got on her 21 year old sister's nerves on holiday who said she texted way too much.
I caught her out lying the other day about where she was going and who with (don't know why she lied, would have been ok with me re the place and people)cos her dad saw her whilst he was out with the dog and to be honest don't trust her that much (history) although I try to.
She causes endless arguments and is aggressive and flares up very easily. Says she wants a job so she can be out of the house and away from us which I found very upsetting. Her elder sister has left home mostly (term time) even though she could live at home, she would rather pay and live out as she finds her younger sister very difficult to live with.
Please please help, I don't know what to do and feel we are falling apart. The last few years have been the worst in my life due to her and her behaviour as she gets to me and upsets me so much. She causes trouble between us and I feel that in general I am so much less happy than I used to be and it upsets me that she is so rejecting etc..my other two daughters weren't, and the eldest was a handful at times
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