Teenage son bringing girl home

[spababe]

My son aged 13 is having a friend who is a girl to visit. He normally takes friends into his bedroom. Should I let them be in there together or should I tell him in advance I expect the door to be left open?
If she is a girlfriend and not 'just a friend' how much space should i give them??

[Locketjuice]

I'm not any help but I would be careful what her parents would say if you did let them go into his room door closed.. You may have a very angry mum/dad at your door

[Locketjuice]

When I was 15 my boyfriends dad was a bit funny about me staying.. Even though I ended up there everynight because he was more worried what my parents might have said if they had known (they did btw) or if I got pregnant etc

[spababe]

I have thought of all of that Locketjuice and I would prefer the door left open but am I just being old fashioned or non trusting?

[Iseeall]

I think it depends if she is a new friend or not.
If she is someone you know from infants/juniors and they are just going to play on the wii or do homework i'd leave them to it with the bedroom door open( as usual?)
If this is a new friend and he has announced he is bringing 'new girl friend' home to see his room, met the cat or whatever I would keep them downstairs.
My dd has had a boy pal from reception onwards(now 6th form) and he is her longest standing friend, they go to a mixed secondary school and it seems normal to have friends of the opposite gender.

[Mabelface]

I have a door open policy as long as the room is in plain view when passing. If the room is up in the loft, like my daughter's, then it's a definite no for going in the bedroom!

[bigTillyMint]

When DD(13)'s boyfriend was round, I said door open. Was not a problem.

The "den" in the loft was more tricky, but as DS kept "joining" them, not too much of a problem!

[secretscwirrels]

In this house the door must be wide open and I frequently find I need to go past or pop in unannounced .
I feel that I need to be almost more vigilant with someone else's daughter in my home. If I had DDs I would hope their boyfriend's parents would do the same.

[spababe]

thanks, my instinct was right then

[Startail]

I have explained to DD that taking her very old male friend up into her bunk to mess about on her lap top.

If either of their younger sisters say anything it could get embarrassing.

[Startail]

Old as in from primary, not in age (he's a year younger and she'd swear just 'little brother')