DS, 17, swears at me big way sometimes - today he told me I was 'f ... mental' - said the full word. This was because I was trying to help him with a work experience issue - basically he hasn't organised it and it's imminent and I got up early to make calls, write emails etc as he's doing nothing about it. My guess is that I do too much for him and he's angry with himself -
DH was there and said nothing. He never does. DS stormed off & DH just said to me 'You're shouting' - so a rebuke. Actually, I was very upset and I went up to DS and he did apologize. DH has been mute - he may have spoken to DS but is unrepentant over how he reacted. He is very, very slow to show me any back up at all over my kids' behaviour towards me. I did quite a big of flak from all of them - it can be very unpleasant. I know they love me but they think Im fair game.
All this I could handle if only DH worked with me to encourage better manners. He is very weak in this area. I said I'd leave - go away for a few days but the truth is that I can't afford to and I have no-one to go to for some sanctuary. I work f-t - and evenings - while DH struggles to get work so I am utterly exhausted.
DH is being very difficult - instead of quietly saying he's sorry that he mishandled things - he is starting to pin blame on me for eg 20 years' in a job he hates - nothing to do with me.
How do you handle a 17 year old who speaks like this - who vents his anger like this - and how do you handle a DH who does nothing about it?
Sorry for the length - I feel so empty and sad right now.
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RoseWei · 08/06/2013 15:21
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