We have just discovered our son (16 in 2 months) has been sneaking out of the house at night from at least new year to go to parties etc.
We have tried to talk to him about why this is so worrying but got nowhere. He has never even asked us if he can go to these things and says it is because we are 'so tight' and would not let him go!
Actually we would have but with a few rules (DH would pick him up and need to be home by a set time etc Nothing outrageously hard!).
I am horrified at the thought of him wandering home from god knows where in the early hours of the morning on his own at his age. We discovered he slept in the garage at xmas as he could not get back in house so was out in the cold all night. I found upstairs windows left slightly open and a ladder on conservatory roof and have nightmare visions of him drunkenly trying to climb up, falling and lying undiscovered all night. God - there is more but you get the picture!
He has always been independant and is quite a secretive type and has boasted to me that I don't know anything about what he does. I find that so sad as we are an open and communicative family. He nevers shares much about himself and seems to enjoy shutting us out of his life.
With his friends he is happy, popular and confident.
Most of the time he is friendly and chatty with us too but it has become clear he really does have a whole world he does not want to share. I know that is normal for teens and can't change that but am really worried about the night time outings - I think he will carry on just because he prefers to do it that way rather than let us in on where he is going.
I am so worried for his safety but feel totally powerless.
How do you deal with this?
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ds 15 yr sneaking out at night
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tuttifrootie · 26/05/2013 11:59
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