The DS is a term and a half into his first year at Senior school and is not making any effort in class. This has resulted in a report card system being adopted whereby he gets every teacher of every class to give him effort grades, comments on his behaviour in said class and initial their remarks.
I have been rewarding effort grades of 1 or 2 with £1 and Xbox hours - effort grades of 3 or 4 have resulted in same amount being deducted. He was hell bent on buying new Fifa Xbox game so earned £38 via this system & was able to buy said game. I was slightly suspicious at lack of initials but trusted him as he has made improvements this term. However, on my prompting, his tutor has discovered that he filled in the uninitialled marks himself. He also lied about being collected from school to avoid set prep time in the library. Instead he went into town with his friends. All systems set up to teach him self-discipline for the GCSE years ahead are being manipulated.
I am so disappointed by his behaviour and wonder how best to approach this lying before it takes a strong hold. He has made friends and is good at sports but is a very convincing liar.
I plan to confiscate the Xbox until he has "re-earned" the hours legitimately. I will also explain how lying gains nothing and just hurts him as well as others.
This is my first ever conversation so apologies if I have been too long winded. Would love some feedback from those of you who have experienced the same.
Many thanks.
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MrsLunch · 28/02/2013 13:31
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