Help! My 13 year old DD seems to go from one problem to the next with her group of friends and it is becoming incredibly stressful dealing with the fallout. Recently, things spilled over onto one of the girls Facebook page, via ask.fm (evil bullying tool if you haven't heard of it) and my DH and I decided we had to speak to school, not about the falling out per se, but to inform them about ask.fm and that my DD was pretty distressed about what had been written about her - everything from "you're ugly" to "you should die". School handled the situation very well, but my DD now very anxious about her friendships, and this is causing more problems. She says everything is ok now, but is feeling very insecure, and this is reflected in her behaviour - angry, pushing boundaries big-time and generally being unpleasant. I suspect some of these insecurities are being played out with her friends too and causing more problems with them.I certainly don't think she doesn't have a part to play in it, even though I only hear one side of the story! I think there are still issues with these girls, that are far from resolved, but cannot explicitly say this to my DD - think she knows this really but doesn't want to admit it to herself. She's not very confident, and doesn't make new friendships very easily, think she's trying to cling on to this group out of fear, rather than genuine friendship. It's so hard not to get emotionally involved - so stressful last time, trying to stay level-headed for her, then going downstairs and sobbing! Just want her to be happy and confident, and to be herself, without fear of rejection. Is this all 13 year old girls, and what can I do to help her? It breaks my heart to see her so lost whenever this happens. Any advice much appreciated.
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