Have just joined on here as not sure where to turn next for my daughter. I have twins- chalk and cheese doesn't even come close!
Have appointment in school re my youngest in the morning - she was ill all last week and the same before Christmas- feeling sick, off her food, lethargic etc. For this and all sorts of reasons I am really worried about her - this is an ongoing problem coupled with tantrums ( throwing things, swearing, hating everyone and everything...)not wanting to do anything... refusing to get dressed, go to bed/get up ... Last year her behaviour in school was not good - this has improved this year hugely but it has affected the classes she has been put in for GCSE.
She takes no interest in anything apart from TV- has given up any activities over the years, she hardly ever sees her friends out of school in the last few months and I cannot find anything she is willing to do... we will sometimes plan something she seems interested in- a cinema trip etc but then she will refuse to go. Her behaviour is often unreasonable and unpredictable..
she hates school ... I have approached the school on a number of occasions since she was in year 7 ( when she was self harming) and although she saw the school counsellor a couple of times she has not been allowed to since year 8 as "she is not bad enough"
We have recently been through a lot of upheaval as I separated from my husband of 7 years last Christmas (very quickly) when he became violent with her. When I asked for help in school following this she was told as my husband had moved out she did not need the counsellor ( again "not bad enough"?)
I have also been to the GP on a number of occasions since she has been in year 7- most recently in October- when the GP she saw thought she needed a psychiatric referral- when I rang to see what was happening with this they have arranged another GP appointment- we are going tomorrow evening- I have asked to see a different GP in the practice though...
She did see someone from childrens services last year but as she wouldn't talk in the session she had they said they couldn't help her.
She seems worse around the time of her period ( these last about 10 days- she sometimes faints and has really bad pains) - when I asked about the possibility of medication for this I was told this was not an option
I really am at the end of my tether and feeling very alone- her father is simply not interested - just hoping someone can reassure me that it's not just me or even suggest some ways to help? All this is also having an effect on her sister and I feel like we are just in a downward spiral.
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talicat · 03/02/2013 23:31
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