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Your Teen wins....

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TopsyRK · 28/01/2013 17:04

Your teen wins as soon as you raise your voice, they are looking for conflict.

Your rules should always be...

Ask first
Tell second
Punish third

Ask them to do something, if no reaction, then tell them, if no reaction punish them, never raise your voice or argue with them as you are the parent.

Trust me not easy but it works

Chris

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QOD · 28/01/2013 17:09

Umm ok

Have you got teens?

they're evil

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MrsPresley · 28/01/2013 17:17

Seriously, will that really work?

Why didn't someone tell me that when my eldest became a teen 27 years ago, then her sister, then her brother, could have saved me lot of shouting discussions.

Never mind, fingers crossed, I'll see if it works with the youngest not a hope in hell

PS, it didn't work when I was a teen either Grin

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threesocksmorgan · 28/01/2013 17:18

thanks Chris
that doesn't work by the way

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noddyholder · 28/01/2013 17:18

If I had followed those rules I would have been toast

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TopsyRK · 28/01/2013 17:19

Yes had 4 teens and worked with teens for over 16yrs.

(PS in case your wondering no not a troll :-) )

And yes it does work

Chris

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Foggles · 28/01/2013 17:20

You missed out a line...

and repeat

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TopsyRK · 28/01/2013 17:20

No never repeat

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threesocksmorgan · 28/01/2013 17:23

who is Chris?

it doesn't work

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Foggles · 28/01/2013 17:27

Seriously?

So, after one cycle of ask/tell/punish - your teens always did as they were asked first time?

What kind of punishments did you dole out?

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TopsyRK · 28/01/2013 17:33

I was saying never repeat yourself say it only once....

Of course you may need to repeat it the next day etc...
Chris

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TaggieCampbellBlack · 28/01/2013 17:34

You are wrong.

I have only ever had to ask once.

I am perfect as are my teenagers.

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secretscwirrels · 28/01/2013 17:39

Ah well that told us didn't it.

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Hullygully · 28/01/2013 17:39

I am so glad you were there for me Chris

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Foggles · 28/01/2013 17:40

I only have to raise my eyebrows.

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Hullygully · 28/01/2013 17:41

Oh but Chris you don't have any children

How did you come by your precious knowledge?

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noddyholder · 28/01/2013 17:42

I think any teenager who doesn't rattle your cage isn't doing their job properly and is not preparing for life without you where they will not always want to toe the line and obey rules

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Hullygully · 28/01/2013 17:42


wah hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Go have some teens, Chris old bean, and then come and tell us how that's working out for you
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BackforGood · 28/01/2013 17:43

Gosh - whoever would have thought it?
So glad you have imparted that drop of wisdom.
Life will be plain sailing for us all now.

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QOD · 28/01/2013 17:46

Such fun!

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noddyholder · 28/01/2013 17:46

What about Arse Kick repeat

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noddyholder · 28/01/2013 17:47

Or wine pour ignore Grin which was what I did

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Foggles · 28/01/2013 17:49

I like wine/pour/ignore Grin

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theDudesmummy · 28/01/2013 17:51

My DH's maxim with his teenage daughters would be: Tell first. That's it. (there is no need for any more steps). Amazingly it works.

And no, he has never hit them or punished them (well, not since they were teengares anyway which is the only way I have known them. I think when they were little they may have got sent to their room).

PS I would be on the "wine pour ignore plan" if it had ever been up to me, but given that they have never needed telling twice on anything, I never needed any techniques!

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TwllBach · 28/01/2013 17:51
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CuttedUpPear · 28/01/2013 17:54

You had four teens?
Really....?
Hmm

And what brings you to these pages Chris?

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