Maybe more of a rant than advice but if anyone has words of wisdom then I am all ears.
DD(16) met her first serious BF(17) back in July. She's thrown herself into this relationship and became practically obsessed with spending time with him to the exclusion of all others. Friends, family.....all fell by the wayside.
I've done my best to make him feel welcome, even having him around on xmas day for dinner. They are allowed in her room and we've had to put a limit of 10pm for him to be out of the house or he'd be here til stupid o'clock.
The problem is that he's starting to show a lot of controlling behaviour. He always was the jealous type. He says it is because his ex cheated on him and shattered his trust in women. Yet he says he trusts my DD and I've had a polite chat with him about not making my DD pay for what someone else did.
This weekend they had an argument and my DD told him to go because he'd started telling her to change what she was wearing. Apparently you could see her bra strap! Now I'd be the first to complain if it was anything risque but it seriously wasn't. As you can imagine in the snow and going to meet her mum, she wasn't exactly wearing anything revealing.
I'm glad she stuck up for herself. They 'finished' over the weekend but now they're back together. I know this cos her best mate told me but yet DD won't tell me anything. She just says that they are 'friends'.
He's a nice enough lad but that part of his personality isn't going to change. And what started out as a bit of jealousy when she spoke to some other lad, seems to be getting worse.
I know what I should do is just trust her but of course as a dad I find it hard to do.
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niceguy2 · 27/01/2013 23:28
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