It is good to hear that there are some teens out there who are filled with hope and enthusiasm! It gives me hope! :)
Pag, you say "Some of my comments are not meant to be 'look, it's easy' but more a view of the attitude that helped him" and I certainly accept the first part of that. But IMO/E, young people's attitudes are so strongly shaped by the attitudes of those they find around them and the feedback they get from others. There's a powerful 'Give a dog a bad name' effect... And kids rise or sink to expectations.
In my DS1's case, he got some very negative messages at secondary school - intentional and accidental - and he was very strongly influenced by them. I remember a few particularly:
"You're the only boy in year 8 who still reads for pleasure!" --> So he stopped, because he absorbed 'boys aren't supposed to read'.
"You're not good at maths" --> His attainment in maths slipped backwards: he started Y7 in top set, but at the end of Y10 his 'level' was actually lower than it had been at the end of primary school.
"You're going to fail your GCSEs" - This was 'shown' to him particularly vividly when the senior team called him into a staff meeting to show him his position on the Y11 'Wall of Shame' (their words) - which was photos of all the kids causing 'concern' displayed in order of predicted grades, with my son second to bottom. --> So he stopped working. Why bother, if he's going to fail anyway?
My own input could mitigate, but it couldn't possibly counter-balance all the negative feedback from school: we had countless conversations where I'd say things like "School is wrong: you are not stupid: you would do better if you chose to work"; and he would say "There's no point in working because school say I'm stupid and I'm going to fail".
My greatest sadness is not that my son under-achieved academically, but that school damaged his self-confidence so badly. He left school believing that he was stupid, a failure, had no future, was not 'wanted' or valued, was unlikely ever to get a job... :( (He went badly off the rails last year, though - thankfully, fingers crossed - he is getting back on track now... )
Special is right that other interests and hobbies are needed: but a young person who feels bad about themselves is less likely to engage in other activities; and a young person who is disengaged - or worse, angry about it all - isn't really wanted.
All my DS's other strengths and talents were sidelined or dismissed, and over the years, he had fewer and fewer opportunities to use them. And this happens to thousands and thousands of teens each year - because we have created a society in which teenagers are supposed to stay in school and study - now for longer than ever. The ones who are not suited by this are treated as failures or 'difficult'.
Humans - including teenagers! - are motivated by appreciation, success, challenges they can succeed at, praise, feeling useful... And yet our society does not generally give teenagers many opportunities to have these positive experiences.
Of course there are exceptions to this - teens who do DoE etc. (whose parents are probably disproportionately present here on MN!) But I am talking about the generation of teens we are raising, not any individuals.
Teenagers who aren't 'academic' - and even those who are - are made generally 'useless' by our society. They are given fewer and fewer opportunities to enter the world of work and be useful. They are expected to be least active at the very time of their lives that they have most energy. They are forced into greater and longer dependency on their parents. They are rarely appreciated and praised - indeed, as a group, teenagers are much more likely to be criticised and demonised.
I think my own son will be OK in the end, because he is who he is and has me for him mum! And I expect your DS will be alright in the end too, look. But I do worry for this generation, which contains so many young people who feel - and are treated - as 'useless' or 'failures' or 'difficult'. I hope we don't create a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Climbs down from soapbox and goes to put kettle on