Really not sure where to start, or what I expect from this. The shortened version is she is due to start college in September, and wants to go to a college 15 miles away, as opposed to a local college which has equally good reputation, as she wants to go somewhere where no one will know her! She goes to a senior school, where she knew nobody when she started, was bright and in the top set for everything, so is perceived to be a 'geek' or goody-goody. Her friendship group is made up of other similar (mainly) girls who were in a similar position and my daughter has admitted that as she has grown up they are not the people she would chose to be friends with necessarily. She has many friends, but no special friends and has not been able to infiltrate into another group. I have tried reasoning that there will be many many people from other schools going, but I'm not sure if she is just being stubborn now.......she says she doesn't want to start at a college where she will be labelled as something she doesn't think she is......in an attempt to 'fit in' she has probably done some really silly things - relationship with boy who only wanted a physical relationship when he wanted, and not to go out with her. He totally crushed her when he asked out her best friend..........then we have the very inappropriate photos which were sent to a random boy from a social networking site, because he asked........she is currently 'friends' with a lovely lad who doesn't go to her school, but she is putting pressure on him for more from their relationship, which by the sounds of it, is probably going to be the breaking of a lovely friendship (mainly by taking bad advice from a friend she has probably really upset him - she does tend to say things with no regard for the fall out it is going to cause).........she is obsessed with texting, tweeting, facebooking et al. We have spoken about the photos and she appears to be sorry for it, but I know he has recently been trying to make contact again. I think she is desparate for a physical relationship and is very sexually aware and I am just really scared that she is going to do something silly, thinking a physical relationship is going to make someone love her. She is an only child (my husband doesn't know the boy stuff I have posted on here). I just don't want her to get any more hurt, or cause any more hurt to anyone.............She doesn't go out often, but does meet up with friends whenever she wants (it's just not that often, if you see what I mean), she is sporty and has a tiny part time job. She has to buy some things from her own money (though I suspect in all reality she is a bit spoilt). I get really scared about her behaviour as she is very sweet really. But has just been so sad recently......Or is all this just really normal and I need to get a grip myself - I suffered from PND quite badly, and sometimes feel myself falling back into that trap - do I need help, or help for her? Aaaah, thanks for reading.......
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Whatdoidonow96 · 22/01/2013 14:36
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